breakups
Can someone tell me how to actually heal from a breakup? i’ve had 3 girlfriends. I got cheated on every single time. Every relationship I would get progressively worse and worse as a boyfriend. I think it might have something to do with my experience from relationships.
First girl got treated like a princess. she cheated on me and i instantly jumped into another relationship. Second girl got treated okay. Nothing like the first girl. I ended up cheating on her with the “just in case she cheats on me” mindset. It worked out because it turned out she was cheating on me too. Not saying I was right for cheating and I know not to repeat that mistake again
But then I got with the 3rd girl which made it my 3rd back to back relationship since freshmen year of high school. I started dating this girl beginning of my junior year and we dated up until she went to college. I genuinely loved that girl to death but I never showed it. I was a complete piece of shit this time around.
Towards the end of our relationship I started maturing and learning from my mistakes so I started changing how I treated her and just tried my best to be the person she deserves but by then the damage was already done. She cheated on me too which i forgave her for because I genuinely wanted to be with her forever but she left me for the guy she cheated with.
That was back in December. It has been 6 months since then. This time I thought it would be best if I didn’t jump right into another relationship. I wanted to take some time to heal which i’ve been doing for the last 6 months
I guess I don’t really know how to actually heal since I never tried this before. I thought just waiting it out would do the trick but it’s been half a year and I still can’t get rid of our pictures. I still catch myself stalking her social media from time to time or even texting her sometimes. She cheated on the guy she’s with now with me in the beginning but for the most part she’s just been ignoring me which kind of makes me look pathetic in a way but for some reason it doesn’t stop me from checking up on her still
Can someone tell me what to do in order to actually heal from this relationship? Clearly just thugging it out doesn’t work. What do I gotta do? I’m stationed in a whole different country now so I don’t get why this is so hard for me but it is. I want to be at my best whenever the next girl comes into my life because I never want to ruin another poor girl like that again.
Someone please help because i’ve been so depressed and suicidal for the last 6 months it’s not even funny. I’m also recovering from a motorcycle accident and I’ve been on recovery leave for the last 30 days so I have just been stuck in the barracks all month which is not helping at all.