I had a friend that I ended up falling out with, not in the workplace, of course. It became this big drama that I was trying to avoid. I remained professional and was told by others and my supervisor that I was doing a good job at handling it. We had a mediation meeting, and I thought that things were good after that. After the meeting, she continued her behaviors. This consisted of rumors, pettiness, and lies.
To return as a resident advisor at my university we have to do a returner presentation. I did my presentation and I talked about my mission as RA, resident feedback, which was good, my programs, my bulletin boards, and flyers, in my evaluation that I got from my supervisor. My evaluation was good. The only bad thing (i didn’t even get the lowest score on) was she said I need to interact with all staff regarding of personal feelings and she felt like I could’ve been my own RA (before me and that RA fell out) but she said that I’ve improved a lot.
It seemed like one comment I made in my presentation, made some people in the department upset. I simply stated that I wish I would’ve gotten more help, as these behaviors and drama lasted all semester. This triggered a higher up and she moved me from the “alternate” (you may come back if someone cancels or doesn’t make grade requirements)list to the “not rehired” list. but my coworker / ex friend It’s on the alternate list. (?!?!?!) Apparently, they felt like my whole presentation was about the drama, and I didn’t take accountability. They said it was “disrespectful”…..Mind you I talked about way more than that in my presentation. They also said it wasn’t a friendship issue. I am very confused on that as I have had no communication with this person as they are no longer my friend (and they know this). This this is a staff & professionalism issue at this point.
I am currently seeing a therapist on Campus. My therapist told me that what they did was unjust and unfair. I also told the psychiatrist on Campus what happened as well and she said the same thing. One of them even suggested that I go to the dean of students office to report the department for what they did. I don’t even wanna say too much, but I have seen so many injustices in this department as I gave them 3 years of my undergrad experience. They blatantly show favoritism and make decisions based off of their emotional state. They have rehired RAs that have constantly been involved in incidents.
Not only did they not rehire me for the next school year but now they didn’t hire me for the summer, not a RA job, but a job within the department that i’ve done before. My record is clean and I had no prior incidents to this.
Recently, I was venting saying that i’m tired of being treated this way by the department and I feel like my stress/depression/anxiety scores are high. I said that I feel like I don’t even want to finish the school year out. All my supervisor said was “ If you’re going to quit you better start packing now” Like who says that?!!! If I said something like that to a resident I would get in big trouble. I told my therapist and a coworker what she said and they were both shocked. Therapist said that was unprofessional.
At this point, I feel completely black balled by this department. I feel like something needs to be done but i’m unsure of what to do.