I got played
I was talking to a guy for about four months. He pursued me first mind you. He has been taking me out on dates consistently since then. In the beginning on the second date we went to dinner and talked about what we were looking for and our intentions moving forward. Keep in mind I specifically stated that I do not do casual and am looking for a long term healthy relationship, I told him that if casual is his thing that's perfectly fine but I am not interested. He said he was looking for the same things and stated that he doesn't like rushing good connections. This guy told his parents about me and his friends, his friends would call him and he would answer saying he was with me. He eventually came to meet both my parents and even brought flowers to my mom at the door. My parents said he was welcome anytime and even had been inviting him to dinner which I now realize he was just making excuses not to go. He also turned on his location which was his choice, I did not ask and did not have mine on bc I felt that I wouldn't turn it on until we were official. He would buy me flowers and tell me to let him know when they start to decay so he would replace them. I did feel that he was taking his time with me because he didn't try to get physical with me immediately or was telling me he loved me a week in. On about month three we broke the touch barrier and held hands and also kissed. There was one time when he invited me to his house and we watched a movie, cuddled, take a nap, and later made out but nothing much else. I never slept with him, thankfully. Afterwards I was very overwhelmed with emotions and began to cry. I told him that I was sorry and that he didn't do anything wrong. He comforted me, held me in his arms and told me that it's okay. I did feel very safe and comfortable at this point. On the very last date that we went on I told him that I wanted to talk about something important, I planned on bringing up the boundaries conversation because of what happened last time. When we started to talk he was the one to actually brought up boundaries first before I ever did which I thought was a green flag. He stated that we can slow things down because I don't want to make you uncomfortable or anything like that. We agreed that we would only hold hands, hug, and kiss. By the end of the night after having a vulnerable conversation he told me that he would let me know the next time we would be able to go out and hugged me not wanting to let go. He kissed me goodbye and dropped me back off at my house and that was the last time I saw him before it ended. A week later and I noticed a shift in his behavior, he was distant and took a while to respond. I didn't think much of it at first because I know he has a life and a job. I had a weird gut feeling ad decided to go look at his recent following on TikTok. A new girl who he just recently started following was following him on all accounts including each other's gym accounts. Immaturely I decided to add her snapchat to which she added me back the next day. Of course I could not prove that they were talking I knew something was going on. I want to make it clear that no me and this guy were not dating just yet but to get my family involved, bring flowers to my mom, and have a vulnerable conversation with me the last time we spoke I was pissed of course bc I was under the impression that things were genuinely going somewhere.
The next day that I knew something was up he turned his location randomly off. I texted him saying that things were different and if you would like to meet up and talk in person we can. He agreed and said he was very sorry for leaving me confused after what we talked about last time. After snapping the girl a couple of times I opened a snap of her smiling and he was very obviously behind her. This completely broke me, ik that not everything works out with everyone but to be vulnerable with a guy and thought that things were going well I was devastated. I didn't text him till days later saying that I couldn't meet and that what he did was disrespectful especially getting my family involved and to take care. The message back was immature and rude stating that he didn't see any type of future with me and met someone else who was better future wise which is a lame cover up.
Anyways I'm so tired of men getting away with this shit and act like complete cowards not even wanting to have a conversation. He knew what I wanted from the beginning and still continued to purse me and even told me a week before he randomly decided he was done that he would like to come over and hangout, playing board games with my family. Im petty and I want to get him back, call me immature I don't care. Now knowing a bit about my situation what are some ways I can get him back? I don't mean damage any property or something like that. He fucking used me and deserves it, let me know.