so I did my bloodwork but the clinic I went to didn’t offer blood pressure, height and weight checks, is it okay if I omit them and or include them as a separate file from things I calculate myself at home since I have the means to do so?
I think posting this here is like the coldest take ever but I really dislike how wider trans / pro trans, hell even anti trans spaces adopted this idea of "changing your gender" when it comes to trans identity, it's simply liberal bs.
the way things are is that trans people are chaning sex rather than gender, because your gender is a constant, you may be born male for example but if you identify as a woman you have always been a woman and are a woman, only your sex needs changing through hrt and surgery.
the only aspect I'd understand in this narrative is socially going from being percieved as gender x and then as gender y it's technically changing your gender, but you as a person have always been gender y
it makes me mad how many cis and theyfab-y or mega woke trans people adopted this belief, mostly at first as a way to make trans as more "palatable", "oh you don't actually believe you are female/male, you're simply changing only your gender, you're actually still always MALE/FEMALE"
anyways, all in all, TCD
tbh this is just going to be a long shizopost made by a sleep deprived man, so, read it or don't, I don't care
this is a part of trans identity I rarely see discussed in wider trans spaces, however it's often brought up here and in tttt adjasent spaces.
the notion of trans guilt in wider online spaces include theyfabs posting something akin to "when I came out as ftm I had to say goodbye to this and I was soooo guilty" which then shows a slideshow of girly experiences and items, like toys ans such.
however, in my opinion for people who aren't theyfabs and theymabs, this idea of trans guilt is more tied to regret of not coming out/figuring it out sooner thus losing a chance to have a desired childhood aligning to the persons gender (i.e. learning how to apply makeup from your mother or sister as a trans woman, or playing sports with boys and learning how to shave from your dad for trans guys). at least this is the case for me. I currently exist as a bedrotting neet more akin to Gregory Zamza from metamorphosis than anything else, and all I do is lay in bed and get angry at the world. additionally this guilt from not having these gender related experiences growing up leads to a sense of lonelines as it is harder to fit in with your desired group, it feels like everyone's ten steps ahead as you're just stepping into the place you always wanted to be in and you're just attempting to play catch up. there's a yearn for a life that never was, a guilt for your child self that you couldn't provide for with what you'v always wanted.
anyways, what I'm trying to say is that this feeling only shows up in tttt spaces, and vent posts talking about this usually recieve comforting and positive comments, and overall there is a tight knit community who all share this sense of guilt and loneliness that is tied with trans identity. I find it so that most general online trans spaces are far more toxic, yet they point the finger at tttt as being the toxic ones, these online spaces push out dysphoria, encourage people to not transition and are just straight weird. "wear a skirt dood, it's so heccin masc!!!" or "you don't have to shave or be on hrt or desire to be feminine to be valid as a trans woman!!!", this mindset is harmful as it makes trans identity seem like just something done for fun, for the lolz, like just a costume one can put on and take off whenever it isn't trendy anymore, and not like the genuine part of someone's identity that is caused by a mental ill that it is.
thank you for reading
so I just booked a call and I am a bit unsure about one of the provided rules in the confirmation email, it states “Please prepare your questions before the call and send them.” Does this mean I need to email any questions I have beforehand or just have questions ready for when the call happens?