u/grandclamslam69

My friend and I became close at 12 and stayed friends into my freshman year of college. Her home life was unstable-abuse, neglect, no food at times—so my family and I supported her a lot over the years. As the friendship went on, she repeatedly crossed boundaries. She took my belongings without asking and denied it, even when confronted. In 8th grade, she witnessed me being sexually assaulted and later joked about it, which was a major breach of trust. Over time, she also competed with me over guys, often showing interest in people I liked or had been involved with. In high school, when I was groomed by a teacher, she reacted by making it about herself and accusing me of sharing "her trauma," which led to a temporary fallout (we were always together so I KNOW she had nothing happen to her meanwhile me and my girlfriend at the time were getting questioned on if we sent nudes to each other ever). We later reconciled senior year. In college, things escalated. She became controlling-upset when I made friends, went out, or did things independently. We both met a group of guys, and a pattern repeated: you expressed interest in one (Jacob), and she suddenly did too. Jacob had a girlfriend but eventually became involved with multiple people. Him and I had a drunken sexual encounter, and shortly after, him and my friend started getting close and eventually dating. Despite knowing my recent involvement, they were openly sexual around me, ignoring my discomfort and boundaries. Meanwhile, she mocked my personal growth - my faith, my relationship with my dad, and my academic goals. After leaving school, I cut her off a few months later because she tried to write a whole different crazy wrong narrative of Jacob and I’s sexual encounter. So AITAH? Not to mention she reached back out about a year and some later to “say she was sorry” and that whole argument she didn’t say it once. 🤷🏽‍♀️