So I have had a really exhausting time over the past week or two, I needed to see my endo to manage my HRT, my Infectious Disease doc to manage my Prep, my psychiatrist doc to manage my meds, and my primary doctor for my physical.
I had to go to the VA everyday last week, and I got more attention than I wanted.
Some of it was respectful and some was not so much.
Last Wednesday after an appointment I tuned to walk down this long isolated hall, but as soon as I turned down the hall so did this older black gentleman dressed to the nines, he must have worked there.
I was like great, where do I even look, I smiled nervously and told him good morning, he said good morning then asked if he could compliment me, which I thought was very sweet.
I said yes, and then he told me I was beautiful, it made me blush as I thanked him.
Well last Thursday after my appointment, some other Black older man started whispering at me like spppst sppstt, and finger gesturing me to come over to him, I did and he slowly told me I was beautiful too ( I said thank you and he awkwardly said nothing,then I walked away).
Ten minutes later I am minding my own business and then turn the corner in this VA shoppet, another older Black gentleman looked at me and said; wait, you can’t just come around here looking like new money.
He then began to hit on my heavy, which was kinda awkward because he was standing between me and the door. He was shopping for hand lotion and kept putting some up to my face to smell.
It was kinda intimate and I got worried because people be weird, so I started taking them from him to smell myself( in hindsight I'm glad I did!).
He eventually asked if I was single and eventually asked for my number, I gave it to him even though I figured there was no way he would actually want me.
I finally managed to get out of there but not even an hour later I was receiving nasty texts from this man.
Apparently, there are these two Black ladies that work up there that are a bit jelly, I am more attractive than them. They got mad about that guy hitting on me and started making fun of him and telling him I wasn’t a real woman or some BS.
I get very annoyed that I’m literally just trying to live my life, but I have to deal with people stopping me, inserting themselves into my day, and then freaking out on me just for existing.
I am also annoyed at catty bitches that can’t mind their own business and go out of their way to put down others to make them feel better about their pathetic lives.
Now I have to look over my shoulder every time I come up here because that guy works up here.
And the cherry on top for that day's visit came as I was walking out, I complimented this old Black man’s service dog, he said thank you and then said to the other guy he was talking to that I was; “dressed like a stripper,” FML!
I actually canceled my appointment last Friday because I was lowkey scared to run into him the next day.
I am at that appointment now because I rescheduled, and I’m actually writing this at the VA( I hate this place). I had a small panic attack because I ran into the nice gentleman from last week.
At first I couldn’t remember which guy he was, but when I realized I calmed down, he actually said hi to me again, I think he was going to compliment me again but realized he recently did, he asked; I complimented you a few day ago, I said yes and thank you.
I am very irked at the whole experience, and also kinda overstimulated and doomy, the situation I'm forced to live in is unfair, but at least he couldn't tell and even had to ask…