u/fontofile

Hello,

I am 36 year old lives in europe and diagnosed with ADHD,GAD and depression and in therapy for that. My family lives in india and I have built my life in germany. My mother is bettling liver cirrhosis for last 9 years and she is very advance stage and sad to say but she is on the clock. She has became alot more sick in last 6 month. Moreover she lives with my brother and his family and my brother do care for her but he is clinical narcissist and really opposite of empath. My father has passed away 8 years back and my mum was always dependent on him.

I have always been a good son and gave her telephonic support and now I am in india and trying to spend more time with her. However seeing her sick and bettling one thing after another is putting me in extreme stress and anxiety. I act strongly in front of her. I am going and living through anticipatory grief and guilt. Moreover i also feel guilty that If i would have took care of her she would have probably in better place. I do blame low key my brother.

How to feel strong to go pass through this stage without destroying myself completely. Last but not least i have been chronic empath whole my life and it increased significantly in last couple of years not just with my mum but with people around me, friends etc. i just embodies other people suffering, feeling and start feeling like it. Its almost feels impossible to do self care at the moment. I am jobless and have no desire of woking or finding another job or do anything. Just living a pause state of my life.

Anybody been through similar stage? What to do?

I am recently keep hearing from family and friends that Ghee is better than oil and you need to eat ghee or Sakar(rock sugar) is better than sugar and somebody mentioned oh we dont use salt we use sendha namak. Its all same in slightly different way. Just want to post it as public service announcement. We really need to teach about diet and nutrition at a mass scale in gujarat.

Hello,

I have seen all world cups and am a big fan. However I have seen recent matches and the alot of pro players becoming really good at geoguessr i feel it might making watching matches boring. This is just a subjective thought. My thought is steming it from recently saw some match where both players keep making 5Ks till like 15-17 round. What do you think?

I have always followed the World Cup and noticed that 'Global Multipliers' (Multis) were the norm, increasing with every round. Recently, I started playing the game myself and noticed the rules have changed: you now receive an 'Individual Multiplier' that increases with each personal win. What are the pros and cons of these two systems, and what were the reasons for introducing individual multipliers?