My boyfriend doesn’t know what he likes
My partner has never been experimental in his previous relationships - quite vanilla and always on top with just the basics of roleplay and penetration. He only started getting more into intense things after I came in, which makes me happy because I usually know exactly how I like to be pleased but I have a really hard time pleasing him back because he genuinely has no clue.
He is ticklish on 90% of his body so I can’t kiss him/touch him all over as much as I’d like. He doesn’t care for foreplay that centers him and prefers to please me more. He says he would like me to take control once in a while but I absolutely have no clue how to do that because he’s not a fan of even receiving head for too long, or any other more kinky things that I’m into (for example, I’m a masochist so he has quite a bit to work with). Everything I start doing to him he switches back to me and focuses on my pleasure and while it makes me feel so loved and happy (best sex of my damn life) I would really, really like to please him the way he pleases me and it’s starting to really frustrate me. Every time I ask him he says “I don’t really know what I want because I’ve never tried new things, I’m open to everything” but most of the new things we do try, he’s usually the one on top.
I can ride him for hours and that’s honestly the only thing I’ve been able to crack with him but… I want to do so much more. Hell, I’ve even told him to send me any porn he finds interesting and would like to try with me so I can get SOME ideas!
I don’t really know what to do anymore or how I can make him feel good. Does anyone have any suggestions? 🥲
Edit: Thank you for your fresh perspectives!! In my head, control inevitably meant power exchange and I was wracking my brain to think of new ways to “dominate” him when he asked me to take control but now I see that I can make do with who he is as a person - and he’s just naturally a giver. Your suggestions and ideas have been extremely helpful, so thank you guys so much 🌸