u/fab__dady

Hi guys, me again! Thanks for everyone’s help this far with my 4.5 month old baby. She is falling asleep fast (5 mins) at bedtime now without crying or protest and sleeps a very long stretch (7-9 hours) before crying. She is averaging 14.5 hours of sleep so I’ve adjusted our schedule to allow 9.5 hours wake time. 2.25/2.25/2.5/2.5 is what’s seemingly working good for us right now. I wake her every morning at 6:45 and bedtime is around 7:20/7:30.

Now problem is she still wakes in the night and won’t drink a bottle. I keep offering a feed but she’s not interested. Instead she just wants me to hold her and contact sleep till morning. Which I have been doing. But honestly I just want to stop. So I tried CIO, she cried on/off 1 hour the first night then went back to sleep till morning. Then I just kinda caved the other nights and assisted her. I’m just at a loss of what to do. She doesn’t want to eat. Our schedule seems good, I know 10 hours is the magic number but 9.5 seems good and I have to cap both naps and night sleep to make it work and with any less than this she just falls asleep everywhere we go and is miserable…

So what are my next steps? Actually CIO all night? Everyone keeps telling me to feed and I’m trying but she won’t have it :( I think it’s habit wakes??

She is 4.5 months old, I’ve been posting frequently. Two nights ago I did CIO for her midnight waking and she cried on off for an hour then fell back asleep until morning. Last night she only cried about 2 mins at midnight before falling back asleep which seemed like a huge success to me! But then at 4am she started crying again and wouldn’t stop. I know EMW can be tricky so I just went and held her in the rocking chair at 4:40 until DWT of 6:45am. She stayed asleep in my arms. She clearly still tired. What should I do for future? Is this destroying progress? She doesn’t feed overnight.

If we are in the stroller or car seat she will be falling asleep. Even tho she just woke up from a 1.5 hour nap or whatever the case. I legit have to work so hard to keep her awake and stay on proper wake windows. Is this okay? Am I not giving her enough sleep? She is averaging 3h15min naps and 11-11.5hour nights. I am capping most naps to stay on schedule. 4.5 months old. Been “sleepy” her whole life. 2/2.25/2.25/2.5