At the beginning of this year, I escaped an abusive relationship. After I ended it, my ex threatened to ruin my life, my career, and my family if I refused to speak to him again. When I blocked him, he began what I can only describe as a relentless smear campaign .
He contacted family members he had never even met in an attempt to damage my reputation. He reached out to local newspapers trying to convince them to publish false stories about me. My garage was broken into, and contraband planted there to implicate me in criminal activity. I had to hire a private K9 detection unit to inspect my property.
When I still refused contact, the harassment escalated. He contacted social services and falsely accused my sister’s household of abuse involving my nephew that I was complicit in — people he had never met. He also attempted to interfere with my sister’s employment by falsely claiming she was under investigation. Again he’d never met my family . Thankfully, these allegations were quickly disproven, but the emotional toll on my family was immense.
Eventually, he contacted my federal employer and made horrifying accusations against me, claiming I was involved in illegal activities. I was interrogated by OPR based solely on fabricated screenshots with phone numbers that aren’t even mine , fake profiles, and false messages that were not mine and supposedly “multiple witnesses.” The questions I was asked were devastating and deeply traumatic. I cannot fully express the damage this did to my mental health.
During the height of all of this, I was living in fear. I was being harassed, my home was broken into, I was staying in safe house locations, isolating myself, and trying to survive emotionally while feeling completely unprotected. The depression caused by this is immense .
In the middle of the investigation and prior to signing an affidavit , the government shutdown occurred, and under the weight of everything happening, I ultimately resigned from my position. I was emotionally exhausted and struggling to cope. What hurt deeply was the feeling that OPR never truly investigated the evidence thoroughly. Had proper forensic analysis been done, search warrants been executed , it would have shown that the fake accounts and messages did not originate from me. I also offered to do tests to prove some of the other accusations false and was not given the opportunity to do so .
Because of the government shutdown my resignation has not been processed .
Recently, a former supervisor contacted me and informed me that the investigator allegedly insinuated they intended to make sure I could never hold another federal job again. Hearing that shattered me.
Right now, I feel attacked from every direction. My mental health has suffered tremendously under the weight of the fear, stress,, and uncertainty. While I am grateful to still be alive, the pain this has caused is overwhelming.
I am asking for prayers, support, and insight from anyone who has experienced stalking, harassment, false accusations, or abuse that escalated beyond the relationship itself. I am trying my best to hold on, but I am struggling more than words can explain.
PS : yes the police are aware . there are police reports filed with multiple agencies documenting what has occurred . There hasn’t been enough to arrest him because he hasn’t said he’s going to un- alive me yet . The police can’t protect me . A restraining order can’t protect me . The only thing I know to do is to not engage and keep myself as safe as I can .
Also OPR claims they don’t know who my ex is . They only care about what allegations he made . They say it doesn’t matter who gave them info or what the motive behind the allegation is , what matters is them investing the allegations .