u/countrydwelling

Im sitting here with the information of knowing my bio dad.

Early last week....

7 am Got my dna results and people i didnt know showed up. Originally I thought my dad had a extra brother. Assumed my grandfather had a extra kid before digging, he was a mailman so you never know. Which would have been slightly shocking but he has passed. Just gotta roll with the information. I asked my dad and uncle if they knew the person. My dad was thinking of taking a dna test. I asked my mom she sat silent all day well Im researching.

I messaged some folks asking if they knew this person.

6pm

My mom admits I have a different dad.

Next evening.....With getting my DNA results and this new information I had my bio family mapped out. Ive done geneolgy for years so this was easy. Just no idea who my biological dad was. Based on dna, ages of cousins/ uncles kids.... I know who it is. He is in denial and floored which I dont blame him at all. Getting hard evidence with one more match to help him.

The people that I messaged have started responding. Everyone is super nice and helping add a couple more pieces. Explaining to them I dont want anything just trying to find answers. Having heart issues be nice to know if hereditary.

My mom's family... I have close family asking why bother talking to this bio family. They say we understand but why bother talking to them. Well if you understand why say why bother. Im a mess than ok than numb and cycle all over again.

How would I go about finding a man that is 29% my uncle on my dad's side?

I took a Ancestry dna test, and I connected to a entire family I do not know. This man / uncle matches 29%. It was a flood gate of connections that I do not know. Ive done the documentation my grandmother and grandfather only had two sons.

Could he be a great uncle?