u/capricorn_444

I’m not a Delena shipper so this isn’t me trying to romanticize them, but their relationship is honestly more tragic than people admit.

Their entire relationship is built on things that aren’t stable. The sire bond, Elena losing her memories, Damon dying, constant breakups… it’s never just two people choosing each other under normal circumstances. There’s always something interfering.

And Elena as a character changes a lot in that relationship. Early seasons, she had her own identity her friends, her family, her own moral compass. Later on, it feels like everything revolves around Damon. Whether people like that or not, it’s still kind of sad to watch.

Then there’s Damon himself. He spends the whole relationship thinking he’s not worthy of her, which just creates a cycle of him messing up and Elena having to forgive him or “fix” things. That’s not really a healthy dynamic, it’s more like emotional dependency.

Even the way the writers handle them feels off. Instead of letting the relationship grow naturally, they keep using plot devices to force it (sire bond, memory wipe, constant separation). It makes it feel like the relationship can’t stand on its own.

So yeah, I don’t ship Delena, but I don’t really see them as this epic romance either. It’s more like two people who love each other but can never have a stable, normal relationship without something going wrong or someone losing themselves in it.

The writing for them was just terrible. Delena is tragic because it’s a relationship built on instability, dependency, and loss of identity, and even when they’re together, it never becomes healthy or sustainable.

Tvd is actually kind of funny when you think about it.

This show was OBSESSED with drama,love triangles, betrayals, shock value, constant chaos, but somehow avoided the one type of drama that would’ve actually elevated the writing real uncomfortable fallout.

They’d have characters make huge, messy, morally questionable choices but then just refuse to deal with the consequences in any meaningful way😑.

The biggest example Elena choosing Damon and sleeping with him.

That should’ve blown up her entire friend group.

Not in a “one episode disagreement” way but in a way that actually lingers. Because let’s be real Damon hurt pretty much everyone in that circle at some point. There’s history there that the show just glosses over when it becomes inconvenient.

Where was: -Bonnie actually holding onto resentment instead of instantly moving on?

-Caroline calling Elena out consistently instead of dropping it.

-The group dynamic shifting in a real, lasting way?

Instead everyone just kind of… adjusts. Way too easily.

And that’s the pattern with this show. It wants the aesthetic of drama without committing to the emotional consequences that make drama hit.

Because real fallout would mean:

• characters being wrong for more than five minutes

• relationships actually changing

• tension that doesn’t magically disappear

And the writers clearly didn’t want that.

It’s like they were afraid that if they let characters fully react it would make certain relationships (cough Damon cough) harder to root for so they just skipped over it.

But that’s exactly what would’ve made the story better.

Messy choices should have messy consequences. And TVD had all the setup for that, it just refused to follow through.