u/canadianculture

Hello everyone,

I'm in the middle of an emotional storm of anxiety right now and wanted to know if others had similar experiences and found healing with TRE of other modalities. I've been doing TRE sporadically here and there myself, but beside some shaking, nothing too intense came up.

For context, I'm 40m and I've been single my entire life. I've been living in my head a lot during all those years, thinking women don't really like me, having extreme shyness, a hard time being relaxed around them and also being at peace with my own masculinity I guess?

I've connected with a lovely women from work, during a recent work trip, and we're quite attracted to each other. She super beautiful, lovely, has great value, sexy, etc... Anything I could dream of, without putting her on a pedestal, of course.

Long story short, we've progressed to the point of dating outside work, went to restaurants, went hiking and also had sex, which surprisingly was great for both of us, even with my lack of experience.

I'm writing this post because I know I'm attracted to her, but I feel very much in my head when I'm with her as my heart seems closed off. It feels like there's this blockage around my heart and also sexuality when it's time for PIV... I've been giving her oral and used my finger and she enjoyed it very much, which is a relief.

But I don't know why I'm feeling this flat when the women of my dreams are with me?!

This past sunday morning, we made love and it was great, but I had trouble climaxing during sex and also oral, which she took a bit personally. I'm also having a difficult time staying hard for PIV, which I sense is very important for her. I guess due to my past, lack of experience and age, I've been having a hard time having this masculine drive to have intense sex, which I'm trying to understand and heal with either TRE or anything else, really.

I sense that she's becoming distant and I'm feeling down, thinking I'm losing her when it was wonderful only a couple of days ago.