Bill-splitting
After a formal commitment (ie. Adding boyfriend/girlfriend labels), I feel better about paying/splitting. Before? Absolutely not.
Before a commitment, if I'm asked to split. I feel like I'm being used.
Why? Because men have grown up their whole lives being told to be the provider. That it's their job to chase. That it's their job to cover the bill and not only that, but they should buy flowers and stuff to go the extra mile.
Just as in my whole life, I've been told to be polite. To smile. To avoid conflict. To be demure. To not ask for things. To be helpful and caring and loving.
It is hard for me not to participate in the gender roles that I've been metaphorically waterboarded my whole life to accept. If it is easy for a man to not participate in his gender-equivalent roles early on, then is he even really that interested in me? The societal pattern is that men put less effort into relationships the longer it goes on, so I very much require high (but not smothering) effort at the start.
This isn't the same as gold digging because it doesn't matter to me what he does or doesn't buy. Just that he doesn't ask me to buy it. I actually would be happier if he took me on a hike than if he bought some crazy expensive dinner. It's important that he plans things regardless but the price of those things matter little. I'll never ask for him to buy things or even to do things that cost money early on - so it's a bit backwards when he decides to do something and then ask me to pay/split. Imo, that's rude. Only after I am to the point in the relationship that I'm comfortable to pay/split will I ask to do things that cost money.