u/boredbug73

I was fired this past Monday for multiple coworkers accusing me telling them about my intimate sex life at work.

This never happened. I always chatted with my coworkers but I never discussed my sex life with them. Though there was one coworker I would talk to outside of work about anything. Some of these conversations were about sex but they were never initiated by me.

This guy would tell me about all the sex he was having and give intimate details. Like leaving a girl in handcuffs because he lost the key or how he slept with a students mom when he was a teacher. He also had an attraction to another coworker. He would tell me how hot she was and one time called me in the middle of the night and said: “Tell \*\*\*\*\* I have a huge penis.” Of course I didn’t tell her. I also never reported it because 1. It wasn’t on the clock. 2. I was having a secret relationship with another coworker and it didn’t feel right to report him when I was fooling around myself.

This went on for nine months where him and I would talk about almost anything. Religion, family, relationships, and sex. We were the same person. We laughed and enjoyed the same things and were very open with each other.

Two weeks ago he called me and asked to talk. He said he had some concerns and wanted to address them with me.

1. He was told by others I had his address. I never had his address nor have I ever wanted it. I thought it was odd that this was mentioned and the accusation was outrageous.
2. He doesn’t like that I Google people: I told him in the past that I Google men I go on dates with for my safety and that was that.
3. He didn’t like that we talked about MY sex life: I told him I understood but he needs to recognize that he initiated all of those topics and maybe I shouldn’t have reciprocated but this isn’t all me.

He told me he wasn’t going to tell anyone at work about our conversation and that this was between us. He said I was the light of the company and missed when I’m not there. He told me we were the same person. This whole conversation made me reflect on how he told me his last two relationships were with women who were emotionally manipulative and now I think he was the one who is manipulative.

The next day I get an email that my supervisor and the CEO want to meet with me. (No HR by the way) They said they are sending me on LOA unpaid due to mental health concerns and that I was being investigated for sexual misconduct. I asked to speak my side on multiple occasions and provide evidence but I was ignored.

I found out he told multiple lies about me in a meeting and told his crush and another coworker about things I had told him and they all reported me in that meeting for having a sexually explicit conversation with all of them on the clock. I was then terminated.

That job meant everything to me. Those people only talk to each other because of me. I’m heartbroken and betrayed. Every morning I wake up feeling dread. I do have a new job starting and I’m excited but I’ll never trust anyone again.

Edit: Wow okay this blew up was not expecting that. Thank you everyone for the advice and support. Hearing from you all and now understanding that this man is a manipulative POS is really helping with moving forward. He was always so kind to me and I feel used now.

I texted him the day I was let go asking for some items back that I had lent to him. He never responded but I woke up to an email saying the company is shipping everything to me. How petty of a man are you that you can’t even text me back about this you went and cried to management. That right there shows me how manipulative he really is.

Another Edit: Can’t find a lawyer who will pick this up. :(

Not looking for advice just wanting to vent and be heard.

I was fired this past Monday for multiple coworkers accusing me telling them about my intimate sex life at work.

This never happened. I always chatted with my coworkers but I never discussed my sex life with them. Though there was one coworker I would talk to outside of work about anything. Some of these conversations were about sex but they were never initiated by me.

This guy would tell me about all the sex he was having and give intimate details. Like leaving a girl in handcuffs because he lost the key or how he slept with a students mom when he was a teacher. He also had an attraction to another coworker. He would tell me how hot she was and one time called me in the middle of the night and said: “Tell ***** I have a huge penis.” Of course I didn’t tell her. I also never reported it because 1. It wasn’t on the clock. 2. I was having a secret relationship with another coworker and it didn’t feel right to report him when I was fooling around myself.

This went on for nine months where him and I would talk about almost anything. Religion, family, relationships, and sex. We were the same person. We laughed and enjoyed the same things and were very open with each other.

Two weeks ago he called me and asked to talk. He said he had some concerns and wanted to address them with me.

1. He was told by others I had his address. I never had his address nor have I ever wanted it. I thought it was odd that this was mentioned and the accusation was outrageous.
2. He doesn’t like that I Google people: I told him in the past that I Google men I go on dates with for my safety and that was that.
3. He didn’t like that we talked about MY sex life: I told him I understood but he needs to recognize that he initiated all of those topics and maybe I shouldn’t have reciprocated but this isn’t all me.

He told me he wasn’t going to tell anyone at work about our conversation and that this was between us. He said I was the light of the company and missed when I’m not there. He told me we were the same person. This whole conversation made me reflect on how he told me his last two relationships were with women who were emotionally manipulative and now I think he was the one who is manipulative.

The next day I get an email that my supervisor and the CEO want to meet with me. They said they are sending me on LOA unpaid due to mental health concerns and that I was being investigated for sexual misconduct. I asked to speak my side on multiple occasions and provide evidence but I was ignored.

I found out he told multiple lies about me in a meeting and told his crush and another coworker about things I had told him and they all reported me in that meeting for having a sexually explicit conversation with all of them on the clock. I was then terminated.

That job meant everything to me. Those people only talk to each other because of me. I’m heartbroken and betrayed. Every morning I wake up feeling dread. I do have a new job starting and I’m excited but I’ll never trust anyone again.

Edit: He also had a habit of saying who he was closet to at work. Like “I’m closet to you” or “I’m closet to her.” He would also tell me to ask other people things like. “***** is moving tell her she should throw a party” and “Tell ***** we need more penis presence at these work outings.” I now realize how gross it was but didn’t think about it at the time.