u/book_and_baking

I’m at a loss at the moment. I’ve been off since my cerclage surgery waiting to see my ob and have disability paperwork filled out. My job involves lots of heavy lifting, squatting, excessive steps every day, and is just generally a physically hard job. I thought it wouldn’t be a problem getting disability paperwork filled out as a high risk pregnancy, especially with a previous loss. My doctors office called today and said they can approve time off from my surgery to the 11th but after that they can’t do anything. Said they LEGALLY can’t give me off for my entire pregnancy which I know is a lie. I tried to explain how difficult my job is and how I also have to travel every 2-3 weeks which makes it impossible to establish the long term ob care I need. I asked if I’m supposed to just let me job fire me and the lady basically said idk what you do about that. How can they say I don’t need disability when I can’t do the main functions of my job? How can they expect me to return to work when doing so goes against all the recommendations and restrictions of a cerclage surgery? I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I just got an apartment and bought a vehicle back home thinking there’d be no hold up with disability. There’s no remote work I can do through this job so I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do. Let them fire me and hope unemployment doesn’t deny me? Fight the doctors office? Cancel all my appointments and find a new doctor and hope they’ll approve disability for me?

I know typically you have relatively few OB appointments when you’re having a normal, healthy pregnancy. How often are you seeing your doctors to have your cervix measured and an ultrasound? I had my last appointment on the 15th, about two weeks after my cerclage surgery. Now I’m back in my home state and won’t have my OB intake until June 3rd. Does that seem a little long to go without having a check in? Granted my cervix was measuring great and the stitches were looking great at my last appointment, it just seems a little lengthy of a wait to me. Just trying to keep myself from going insane for the next month worrying.