Help
Hi everyone. My son is 17 months old and he still breastfeeds but only before bed and if he really needs it during night wakes. My son had a very intense feed to sleep association the first whole year of his life. My husband and I had tried to sleep train him but it was too much for us. But when our son was 13 months old we were exhausted and gave in. We did the Ferber method and within 3 to 4 days we were seeing great results. He started sleeping 11-12 hr stretches without any help throughout the night or even at bedtime. But then around the time he was 15 months old his sleep started getting really bad again. His molars started coming in. We tried to stick to the Ferber method but it wasn’t working and he sounded like he was in so much pain so we gave in and either rocked him or fed him to sleep. Now, at 17 months we are trying to sleep train him again and it is not going so well. We tried a few weeks ago and gave up after 3 days because he ended up cutting his upper frenulum during sleep training due to crying and jumping. Then we decided to give it another shot a few nights ago. Tonight is night 5. The past 4 nights he was able to fall asleep on his own at bedtime even though it took a long time sometimes 30 min to almost 2 hours. But then he would fall asleep but the have a night wake and he would be up for hours and if he did fall back asleep it would be only for a couple minutes and then he would start crying again to the point he wasn’t getting any sleep so we would go in and help him after a certain point. It feels like we went 2 steps forward, 5 steps back. Why is it not sticking this time around? Any advice? Anyone know why he is having so much trouble?
Sincerely,
A worried mom who just wants sleep for everyone….