u/biggurlsadness420

My friends and I (young girls in late 20’s) have been friends since our earlier 20’s about 8ish years, My friend Kristen and I birthdays are 2 days apart. We only celebrated together like once or twice(she usually doesn’t like to do much and I take trips) So this year I planed on having a Big party since I never really had one, I mentioned it a few times over the last few hang outs. Well Our birthday is 4 months away and she sent out a Invite for a Bonfire for her birthday the day of MY birthday (which is the weekend). I have told her that I was planning to do a party and was really hurt by it and we talked about sharing the day and that was okay with me but just keeping it small, Over the last few days she has changed her mind and wants her own small celebration on my birthday, (she also did something like this last year) So, am I the asshole to still have my own party?