Buutan akong husband but
Buutan akong husband but wala sya naga-take leadership when it comes to our finances and plans for our future. Please ayaw lang ko ijudge, pati akong husband kay he has a heart of gold, sa tinuod lang. The reality though is ako jud ang alpha sa amoang duha. The natural leader, go-getter and aggressive one. Akong husband is more on chill, buutan, walay libog. Grew up comfortably but very very humble and simple.
Thing is, lately ginakapoy ko. Feeling nako usahay ako lang ang invested sa status sa among finances. He leaves everything to me. He runs a business na sakto lang sad ang income. He admits na mao na iyang comfort zone. I’ve been pushing him to explore online work (like mine), para less hago for him than running his business, and higher income opportunity sad. Pero dili jud sya interesado mag learn even when he potentially has the skills.
Ako karon ang mostly nagashoulder sa expenses. Sya kay mag remit from time to time. No fixed timing or amount. Magremit pero usahay halos bawion ra pud kay pang-rolling sa business (sahod sa tao, etc). Never ni sya nag-ask if sakto ba ang money that we have for our bills, upcoming tuition, upcoming trips. Ako ang naga-allocate, safekeep and plan sa tanan.
Gikapoy na ko sa mental load and honestly it makes me sad nga I would go out of my comfort zone just to earn better for our family while he decides to stick kung asa sya comfortable. Again - please ayaw ninyo sya ilook down tawon kay mamawi man pud sya sa uban butang (he learned how to cook and clean, very loving to me and our child). Siguro more on relaxed sya kay kabalo sya nga naa syay ma-mana? Jk 😅 Pero dili ni sya dependent sa iyang parents hah. Completely the opposite. Ako lang jud siguro ang anxious and worrier sa among duha.
Aside from prayers to calm my anxious and tired mind, unsa pa akong angay buhaton. Unsa man akong i-pep talk sa akong self nga dili pud to the point na i-gaslight na nako akong sarili. Pass lang sa mga advice nga bulagan akong husband lol, kay palangga nako ni and palangga ko niya. Salamat daan sa (hopefully) thoughtful responses. Looking forward to hear from strong wives who have gone through this same thing.