Positive test - just really disappointed.
This is going to be kind of a rant but about a month ago I (F) hung out with my ex (M) after 2 weeks of us not talking - we broke up a few months ago after 2 years of being together but have been on and off ever since. Both of us agreed we weren’t seeing other people because we were sort of working things out, but when we hung out again something felt off. I asked multiple times if he had slept with anyone and he swore up and down, swore on his mom and grandma, that he hadn’t been with anyone. A few days after we hung out, he called me and told me he tested positive for HSV-2 and accused me of sleeping with someone (I hadn’t). My 22nd birthday was 2 days later and I found out on my birthday that he was lying and had actually hooked up with one his female friends in those 2 weeks, without protection, and then lied to me and slept with me again, also with no protection. The friend had also been lying to my face about it. I didn’t have an outbreak or any symptoms so I was really hopeful that maybe I didn’t catch it because he didn’t have any symptoms until a few days after we hung out, but the other day was the 4 week mark since exposure so I got tested and both the IgM and IgG test came back positive for HSV-2. I just feel really disappointed because the lack of symptoms really got my hopes up that it would be negative.
I’ve been doing a lot of research in the last month so I know it’s not the end of world, but I feel so much worse that this guy has put me through hell for 2 years but I was dumb enough to fall for the “I’ve changed”, and now I have to deal with this for the rest of my life because I hung out with him one more time and didn’t trust my gut. I already started daily antivirals in hopes of avoiding an outbreak, but I have no idea what dating is going to be like going forward. I’m graduating college, starting a new job, and moving cities in a month and I was so excited for a fresh start but now all of that feels less exciting. I guess in a way it was harsh lesson on self respect, but I can’t help feeling like this guy really messed up the rest of my life and I let it happen. I know it’s not as serious as it feels right now, but the whole thing is just so disappointing in so many ways. Just wanted to share my experience with people who have maybe been through the same thing so I don’t feel so alone.