u/Zestyclose_Radio_935

My Structure Per Person:

1. Name, Date of Birth/Death, and Timeline of Life
2. Biography of Their Life
3. Family Tree (Spouse, Children, Grandchildren)

My problem is that when I write about how they met, got married, had children, and moved, the information ends up being the same for both my grandmother and grandfather. How can I approach this so their stories feel distinct and not repetitive?

I’m also unsure what else I could include in their biographies to make them more detailed and meaningful. Any advice on how to improve this and what additional information I could add would be greatly appreciated.

I’m writing a family history book with individual biographies for each person from parents to my 10th+ great grandparents. This book is something I’m creating for myself, my children, and my siblings and their families. I’ve also been happy to share what I’ve found with any relatives who’ve shown interest.

Where I’m struggling is with how to handle more sensitive discoveries, particularly about my grandparents, great-grandparents, and extended relatives. I’ve come across things like secret children (often after divorces), possible affairs involving my grandfather that were spoken about when I was younger, the loss of a child my grandmother experienced, and even rumours involving accidental death, suicide, and murder.

Because these involve close family members especially my grandparents I’m unsure how best to approach conversations with relatives. I don’t think asking about something like my grandfather’s affairs would necessarily cause harm, but I do want to be respectful while also seeking honest perspectives. At the same time, this is my history too, and I feel a strong desire to understand it fully.

I know some are baseless with no truth but other's I'm not sure about. I really want to know more about my grandparents speculations as it directly relates back to how they got together and all.

EDIT: I should also add my Grandmother was adopted by her elder half-sister after their father abandoned her and Mom died in childbirth. Because of this my great-aunt never told anyone about their Dad to us and they hate that. For this I believe they would want to tell me everything because they know what it feels like to have secrets.