looking for perspective from those further along in life.
33F — feeling stuck and overwhelmed, looking for perspective from those further along in life.
I keep thinking about where I am vs. where I thought I’d be, and it’s causing a lot of anxiety. Cost of living is high, I went to grad school and now can’t find stable work. I’m managing a mortgage on a small one-bed, while also being told to save for retirement and “live fully.”
There’s also a strong social pressure (especially in London) to constantly be doing — fitness, socialising, culture — or you feel left behind. Dating feels harder too, with less focus on long-term stability.
On top of that: the cost of egg freezing, the financial strain of living alone, and the sense that having children may not be realistic.
I feel stuck between financial pressure and life expectations, and it’s making it hard to think clearly or make decisions. Right now it feels like I’m just getting by without a clear future.
For those who’ve been through difficult phases — how did you approach life when things felt uncertain, financially tight, and off track?