My female clientele are just as handsy as I was taught male clients can be
I’ve been doing massage therapy for a little under a year now and so far I really enjoy the career move but one thing I’ve started to notice within the last month is that my female clientele is incredibly handsy.
In the first couple months doing massage I was always incredibly nervous to make sure my clients were feeling safe and comfortable to the point of doing things like sacrificing my bodymechanics to make sure clients weren’t feeling to uncomfortable example like standings with unnecessary space between me and client while doing elbow work so personal space didn’t feel encroached on.
Well anyway as time goes on I become more comfortable with how I work and learn that being close to the client (i.e leaning on the table while doing forearm work to gain better leverage) wasn’t as uncomfortable for the clients as I was initially paranoid about, and felt my ability improving with this increase in my confidence.
Well fast forward to about a month ago I’m spending time playing with table heights on our tables (we have hydraulic tables) so I can further improve my bodymechanics. Well I end up finding a really good height while working on one of my male regulars and decided to stick with that level. My next client was a woman who was super nice nothing like behaviorally abnormal about her. Well I greet her walk with her to the room while doing some quick intake to find out what areas she needs the most work done and proceed to let her get ready and on the table.
I proceed with the massage and going through my normal motions. Lotion application and palpating the muscles for trigger points and general tension while massaging. I then move to work on the spinal muscles since those tend to hold a lot of tension especially the lower half of the esgs. While what I didn’t realize at the time, because I’m not focused on that while locked into releasing trigger points, is that my penis actually rests on the table and depending on where my client rests their hand against their hands, but I’m unable to feel this unless the client moves their hand out of the way for whatever reason drives them and by that time the issue has solved it self.
What I wasn’t expecting while doing work was to start feeling a rubbing sensation against the tip. I did my best to isolate my hip movement while still while to doing the massage to make sure I wasn’t accidentally rubbing myself against the client and I then realized that my client was rubbing my penis tip with her finger while i gave her the massage.
I didn’t stop her cuz personally I didn’t mind it. There’s definitely ethical reasons why you should NOT do this as a client for whatever reason but I personally wasn’t bothered so I didn’t correct her.
The real kicker was that for the next month, I’d say about 80% of my female clientele upon grazing my penis with their hand began lightly stroking it with their fingers. And some of these women are married which was really crazy to me. The other 20% either had their hands already positioned on the table to avoid any kind of contact or moved their hands upon grazing in which I also moved once i felt the shift and was aware of how my body was positioned.
The whole experience really blew my mind because throughout the entirety of school there was constant conversation about the discrimination against male massage therapists and clientele for obvious reasons given statistics involving men and SA and related crimes. And it all really made sense but what all the talk didn’t make me ready for were the percentage of female clientele that are just as handsy.