First move?
I (20F) am single and have taken time to heal from a past relationship and have been thinking a lot about what I’d want in the future. Is it realistic to expect a man to make the first move? By that I mean show interest.
For example, I usually end up liking a guy and then asking around about him (I.e. is he single, what’s his type, etc.). And then usually a friend will ask and maybe put in a good word for me.
I guess what I’m saying is that I’d love if a guy would see me and it like hit him in his chest that he wants to be with me; that HE would be the one asking around about me! I want to experience that “love out of thin air” situation, but I don’t know if that’s practical.
I do know though that I’m not interested in letting a guy know I’m interested again because that’s how my last relationship started and I ended up with a passive man (I feel like that just increases the likelihood of finding a man that you will have to keep asking to do things). What’s the middle ground here if there is one? I want to be pursued, not the other way around!