u/Wonderful-Beach7317

I’m 16, my parents told me they were getting a divorce back in late August of 2025 (like 2 weeks after my 16th bday 😭). I keep feeling sort of guilty or like i’m being over dramatic and ungrateful whenever I’m upset about the divorce. It’s been super hard for me and even though it’s been like 9 months, it’s still extremely upsetting and I cry often about it, especially as I continue to experience and learn what life is like with divorced parents, and it feels like my life has been completely upended. Except I know that compared to a lot of other people, my situation is great. My parents didn’t fight or anything a lot before the divorce, everything seemed completely normal and it came completely out of the blue for me. They’re very civil with each other, or at the very least when I’m around, and they refuse to talk badly about each other to me. My mom moved out but she still lives in our town and is a 5 minute drive away, and there’s no custody battle or anything so I can just go there whenever I want. I can tell that individually they’re much happier, they’ve both started excising more and eating healthier and lost a lot of weight, they’ve both started trying new hobbies and making new friends and building a good social life. Neither of them are dating anyone, though I know they go on dates and stuff, but they have both sat me down and made sure I was ok with them dating (I’m not, but I feel super guilty and selfish about it so I told them it was ok) and set ground rules about how if they did date anyone, they would never be at the house or meet me until it was appropriate. I know countless other people have way worse situations in divorces, but I still feel so… upset, i don’t know what other word to use. i’m sorry for the rant but i’ve been sitting on this with no one to talk to about it and i want to know if anyone else has dealt with this