u/WeekendAshamed171

Be honest. How many of us are actually having that conversation versus just lying there thinking "they should know by now"?

The crazy part is most of us were never taught that this is even a conversation you're allowed to have. So we just… suffer in silence and hope our partner somehow figures it out.

Has anyone actually managed to have this conversation openly? Did it change things? Or is it still awkward even after years together?

You know exactly what you want but actually saying it out loud to your partner? Whole different story. Why is it so much easier to imagine than to just… ask? have you ever finally asked and it changed everything?

I am having these issues every now and then would really like some insights