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When I first watched Sex and the City, I was completely rooting for Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big, and please don’t judge me for that. I was younger and I found him really attractive, and their whole dynamic felt exciting and kind of addictive to watch.

But when I rewatched it later, my perspective completely changed. I started seeing how emotionally inconsistent Big actually was and how toxic their relationship was. Maybe it hit even harder because he reminded me of my ex, but it stopped feeling like a romantic story and started feeling more like a toxic cycle.

Now it just feels like Carrie kept holding on, hoping he would finally give her stability, while Big kept coming back only when it was convenient for him. It was less about love and more about timing, avoidance, and emotional unavailability.

I feel like we all have that Mr. Big in our lives at some point, we’ll meet him one way or another. We just need to make sure we don’t end up marrying him.

What do you guys think about their relationship?

We were robbed off a long hair character. I will never forgive them. This should be a crime.

Karl from Author of my own destiny

Which long hair character you miss the most?

For me it was Your Eternal Lies, this particular scene made me drop a beat. I had to stop and take a break. This is the scene where she says >!On the winter of my 16th birthday, I stopped getting my periods!<

The second scene which was very emotional for me was (Refer 3rd picture) >!Where Ian says he doesn’t like the blue colour anymore, because her bruises were blue)!<

Bonus: >!Where she mentions her husband used be a very jealous of Ian because she used to collect his pictures and he used to beat up her for it!<

I will add my GIF in the comments.

The kind you can’t even reread without bracing yourself. Show it using a GIF and the panel that absolutely wrecked you.

Rewatching it after two years, I never liked her when I first watched it and I still don’t like her. I don’t understand why people still prefer Charlotte over everyone else. I have seen countless comments where people don’t find her problematic, but she was. She was problematic, patriarchal and misogynistic at times. Her statements only make sense to people who already agree with those beliefs.

For instance, in season 1 or 2 there is a scene where Samantha casually mentions that she might get married since she was dating someone she liked, and Charlotte makes a very serious face. The narration basically says that the thought of Samantha getting married before Charlotte was something she couldn’t stand. That says a lot. It never felt like she cared about her friends’ happiness, it always felt like comparison.

She is often described as a traditional romantic, but that same idealism made her extremely judgmental. She constantly judged Samantha’s choices and Miranda’s way of living while acting like her own way was the right one. A lot of her thinking felt rooted in patriarchal ideas, especially the way she tied a woman’s worth to marriage and relationships.

She was also very hypocritical. She was ready to throw away her job for a man, and she actually did. She changed her religion for a man and made extreme compromises in relationships, which is her choice, but then she judged others for not even doing anything close to that.

Another incident is when Miranda gets pregnant. Instead of supporting her, Charlotte shames her badly, and it clearly comes from her own inability to get pregnant. It was a very self centered reaction. She constantly made situations about herself and couldn’t stand her friends being happy without comparing it to her own life.

Miranda is often labeled as insecure in the show, but I genuinely feel Charlotte was just as insecure, if not more. The difference is Miranda is direct about it, while Charlotte hides it behind this image of being proper, elegant and “perfect.”

I feel like the only reason Charlotte doesn’t get called out enough is because her flaws are quieter and more socially acceptable. She fits the image of traditional femininity, so people overlook how judgmental she actually is.

She wasn’t the best friend. She was deeply insecure, often unfair and unable to truly be happy for her friends without making it about herself.

Does anyone else feel the same after a rewatch?