new pup to co-raise/care for with my bff and dad
looking for feedback re: breeds, training resources and other tips to maximize the success of my next furry found fam member, here's the context:
ive always been an unequivocally a dog person. when i moved back home between undergrad and law school, id saved a bit f money and while i'd ideally love to adopt from a no-kill shelter i literally went years with no suitable options, finally i did a bunch of research re ethical breeders and foud my dream dog: CJ who is a chihuahua x yorkie (that everyone swears is a min pin, but i met both parents before the litter came in)
CJ and i were the perfect pairing.... until law school when i had to leave him with my parents for most of the year for way more years than it would generally take an able-bodied person to complete the degree. after i graduated and my parents downsized due to retirement it was time for CJ to move back in with me, While he was exclusively with me he was happier than id ever seen him. But i grew up in a single family home in a very quiet suburb and transitioning from that to a 20+ story condo full of kids and pets in downtown vancouver threw him for a loop. He developed such severe anxiety that i could virtually never calm him down from hysterical ear-splitting barking without letting him ride on my lap or behind my back while on my wheelchair.
He died at 20 yrs after living a lovely life so i've managed to work through my guilt for upending his home life, Now that i've had several years to process i'm more than ready- ie very eager- for a new doggo, but i don't want to put my pet, parents, neighbours, partner or i through the chaos we all experienced in my beloved CJ's last years. Any advice (w/o shaming), thoughts or questions? I'd especially love to expand on the ways he was a phenomenal match because per the nature of advice seeking posts, we tend to disproportionately focus on what went wrong vs what was exceptionally wonderful.