u/UnaTizia_lol

i rejected my male bsf

i rejected my male bsf

so me 17(f) and my male bsf 18(m) we went on vacation together for easter, it was a nice trip that he decided to gift me but i still paid my share.

this trip was a bit strange ngl, he started calling me pet names when we usually insult each other and he always asked for cuddles, i always responded with an ew and just a cold shoulder and tried to make him understand that i am not interested romantically.

i plus suffer from depression (I have been recovering a lot since i was into severe depression) i still struggle and I tend to have apathy towards people, i don't like to stay around people either i barely stay with my own mother so before this trip i warned my bsf about this.

but the day came he kinda confessed and told me that many things he's doing he is doing them for me and that he only see a future with me.

now i'm not someone that jumps around so i go straight forward as gently as possible, I said that i am not interested in him nor anyone and that i am focusing on my mental health and that he should do those things for himself, plus i told him that he knows that i'm still traumatised from my last relationship (it was a brutal relationship very brutal) and since then i stopped dating, i told him that he doesn't even deserve me he deserves better than someone who has depression and can't even feel human emotions at 100%, he loves to go out, i do not, he loves talking, i hate noises, we are kinda opposites.

and after these 2 weeks together i hate staying around him even more, he is 18 and can't do anything, i'm on my period with bad cramps too and i do everything literally i asked him to help me but he only cleans the dishes if he feels like it, he leaves beers around the house when he finishes eating he leaves it on the table, he can't cook, can't do his own bed, doesn't shower till i tell him to, basically just making me more miserable whateverrr girl.

i might be overreacting here but i hate when people touch me i never touch people hug or anything, i hug my mother and my young cousins that's it, so the fact that he keeps touching me everytime or tries to initiate physical contact it makes me horribly uncomfortable cause i need to take my time (we know eachother for 10 years but we live far we see eachother when we can so this makes it more difficult for me) i know i am problematic but i cannot stand it, istg he is pushing every boundary i have smt than no one ever did, many of my friends always gave me my time and from time to time i would initiate it myself.

and every time i talk to a guy or this guy says smt funny and i tell my baf he says that i should block him cause he is dangerous probably...or when i asked to rate a male friend he said 2 out of 10 and that i should block him again lmaooo.

well now that i rejected him he went to cry in the other room and the air is tense a lot...uhm i appreciate any mature advice for the rest it was smt i needed to leave it out from my chest and sry if some topics switched i just said what i felt(sry for bad English not my main language)

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u/UnaTizia_lol — 2 hours ago