u/Tiny_Bandicoot_4383

My boyfriend is trying to quit sports betting/gambling apps and I’m looking for advice from people who actually managed to stop.
He’s deleting all the apps himself because he genuinely wants to quit, but I know it’s easy to just redownload everything when the urge comes back. We’re trying to figure out ways to make it harder/impossible to access betting apps again. is there a way to fully block gambling apps on iPhone?
did accountability help or make things worse?
anything you wish you did earlier?
I really care about him and just want to support him properly without sounding controlling. Any advice appreciated.

I (F, early 20s) have been dating my boyfriend (M, early 20s) for about 6 months, and I feel really conflicted about our relationship.
When things are good between us, they’re really good. He’s sweet, loving, and makes me genuinely happy. But when things go bad, they go really bad, and I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if this is actually a bigger issue.
Tonight, he lost around $200 gambling (blackjack on an app), and he got really upset. I tried to comfort him, but he started pushing me away and even told me to “find a new man.” This isn’t the first time he’s reacted like this when he’s stressed—he tends to shut down, lash out, or say hurtful things.
At one point, he also said I “don’t want to help him” because I couldn’t send him money this time, even though I’ve helped him financially before. That really hurt, because I do try to be there for him, just not in a way that hurts me.
Then things escalated emotionally. He sent messages about how he’s been struggling for years, how gambling has affected his life, and how he feels like he keeps messing things up. He also said things about hurting himself earlier, and later told me that the only reason he’s still alive is because of me. That honestly really scared me and made me feel a lot of pressure, because I care about him so much but I don’t know how to handle that.
He’s okay now, but the whole situation really shook me. I feel like I’m constantly trying to support him and keep things stable when he spirals, and it’s starting to feel draining.
I care about him a lot, and I don’t want to just walk away from something that feels so good when it’s good. But I also don’t know if I can keep dealing with these emotional ups and downs, especially this early in a relationship.
I guess I’m asking:
Is this something that can realistically get better, especially with the gambling and everything else going on?
Am I doing too much by trying to support him like this?
How do I set boundaries without making him feel like I’m abandoning him?
Any advice would really help, because I feel stuck between loving him and feeling overwhelmed