Do I speak up or just let it go and keep the peace.
I'm a June 2026 bride and have 3 bridesmaids and 1 MOH. My MOH is my childhood friend and my 3 bridesmaids are my high school friends.
We are friends in a real way not in a we knew each other in high school and hangout here and there. No when someone has an issue we show up for each other, we've let each other stay at our houses when needed, we travel for everyone's birthday we make an effort to really support each other.
Now the wedding.... My bridal party have been asking me throughout the whole planning what they can do to help. I didn't want to bother them so I just asked them to just come ready to have fun and for them to be there for my bridal fitting because I just didn't want to do it alone.
3 couldn't make it (live abroad ) but one said she will if I come to her city so I went to her city but she ended up being sick that weekend so we couldn't go to fittings and instead she said she will come to my city and we can go try on dresses then. Great I thought.
But now we are two months from the wedding and she keeps pushing it back, I've just accepted I'll probably have to do this myself because I'm just not comfortable asking a random guest I'm not close to to come. It's okay I decided it is what it is.
NOWWWWW everytime I talk to this bridesmaid she keeps asking me what I need. She'll say things like "omg I feel like I'm failing you as a bridesmaid I haven't been able to help with much" I comfort her and say "it's fine" and then she goes again and it's actually getting really exhausting.
I understand that no one cares more about your wedding than you do I never expected her to. My issue comes when you offer help I tell you how you can help and you keep not helping while saying you are feeling bad. I'd rather just not talk about it 😭.
I grew up an only child and got used to doing things alone as my parents never wanted to do things with me. This is actually the least hurtful part having to go try on dresses alone. The worst part is having to comfort her through this. She has now pushed the visit from January 12 to may 7 which is just a month before the Wedding. I wish she would have just said something earlier instead of giving me hope and leaving me stranded before the wedding. And before anyone guesses it's a money or time issue I don't want to elaborate but I promise it's not.
So I guess my question is should I say something next time she complains again? I'm supposed to chat with her later tonight and I already got a text saying she feels bad and I just feel like she'll bring it up. On another hand I don't even have the energy to fight with someone in then bridal party before the wedding especially since we are all friends I'm worried it might make things awkward.