Saying while being trans
I will preface this by saying my race and presentation plays an important part in what I’m abt to say but being a black trans woman that’s alternative that passes as biracial mostly white dudes talk to me which I don’t really mind the race of a person tbh I never really have well I this guy hmu yesterday and we got into a discussion abt my type in terms of a partner and ik for me im typically more compatible with a guy (im hetero) that’s more masculine than me but has soft attributes to him. Like trade af but in tune with his feminine side. Or even men that are metrosexuals And then I started talking to this man abt how again mostly white boys want to be with me romantically and sexually but I’ve also noticed amongst white men most of them are bottoms which that’s doesn’t bother me yes I identify as hetero but I’m not a heteronormative person either just bc I don’t feel comfortable existing in those spaces I feel the most me around other queer ppl but with this reoccurring pattern of meeting white men that want a dom/top but I’ve also noticed these white boys HUNGER a dominant black man it makes me wonder if these white boys are interested in me bc they see me as more masculine than them and I expressed that very statement to him and he completely blew up on me which kinda hurt my feelings bc I feel like black ppl man or woman or really any gender are easily masculinized and I told him when I engage with these men the things they ask of me takes me so far out of my body I no longer feel feminine at all does anyone else have the issue lmk also like was being problematic in expressing that bc he kinda made it seem like I was being problematic but I don’t feel like I was?? Also like imo his reaction just kinda elves that white queer ppl forget they are also white like there’s nothing wrong with dating outside of your race obviously but sometimes their responses are very white and racist bc a lot of black and brown women especially trans women feel like a walking porn category