u/The_Kinetic_Esthetic

I'm a younger bartender(23) I'm a full time electrical engineering major going into my junior year, paying my way through right now. I do like my job, I like making drinks, i like most of my regulars, I take pride in what I do. I take pride in being one of my bars varsity players.

However, life got significantly busier very quickly.

My girlfriend is gonna graduate soon, I'm so happy for her, but she's gonna be a university professor, and gonna transition to M-F 9-3 hours as soon as June/July for summer quarter. And I can already kinda feel her resenting the fact I work all weekend. For reference I usually have to work doubles Friday-Sundays, then 1-2 regular shifts during the week.

It's also kinda starting to take a toll on me too. It's so incredibly hard to work my ass off in school all week and work during the week, just to have to work 10-12 hour shifts all weekend. The Weekend thing was kinda a condition of me working at this new bar. It's starting to damage my relationship a bit, the stress is finally start to catch up to me, I get so mentally and physically exhausted come Monday I can barely move, and my grades/ focus on school have started to kinda dwindle this quarter. I'm terrified to ask for any time off, because I'm only one of 3 bartenders, and it's just finally becoming to be a bit too much.

I've been applying to every engineering internship within 100 miles of here, but those are only for the summer, and finding a part time one that's year round is few and far between.

I don't exactly know what to do. I don't know if I just suck it up and keep grinding like this, if I say screw it and look for another gig somewhere else, or if I just leave the industry all together and try something different.

What do you think? Have I hit the ceiling here? Am I being dramatic? What would you do?

I applied to the US Army Corps of Engineers internship and have gotten referred to 3 sites near me.

I've been offered a job in Seattle, which is about 6 hours away from me. And the site in Portland in Portland is very interested in me, which is the same issue. Both jobs pay minimum wage and don't offer relocation assistance. The one site I am interested in is about 2.5 hours away and will at least allow me to go home on Fridays/weekends. I've also applied to an internship locally in town and still waiting to hear back.

I don't necessarily mind relocating and paying for a place but Portland and Seattle are expensive, and im a bit farther than I would like to be.

Should I take the sure thing or keep waiting to hear back from places closer?