u/Summer_Breeze18

My goal has been reached

A BIG thank you to everyone who donated, shared the link, given me kind words or encouragement. 🙏🏻

GFM immediately stated 88% of medical fundraisers don't meet their goal so I never expected to raise as much as I did. I am at a loss for words.

I can't express what a relief it is to be lifted of this burden when I'm already struggling to process what happened to Millie. Thank you to everyone for having a kind heart and compassion. 😭🌈

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u/Summer_Breeze18 — 7 hours ago
🔥 Hot ▲ 85 r/DogIsBestFriend

My 5 year old best friend and her emergency care

My 5 year old Beagle, Millie, who seemed otherwise healthy, was lethargic one morning and I rushed her to the emergency vet. They diagnosed her as anemic; (her organs weren't getting enough oxygen from her blood), determined to be caused by leukemia. She was prescribed 4 months of steroids, weekly blood tests and check-ups, and a blood transfusion for immediate treatment.

At home and on medicine, her appetite got a little better, she jumped up on the couch to take naps. I thought she was slowly on the mend, but in the afternoon she declined. I rushed her the emergency vet again where they tried several times to resuscitate her after she collapsed in the lobby. Abruptly and unexpectedly, she passed away barely 24 hours after diagnosis. 💔💔💔

I have not had time to emotionally, mentally and financially prepare for this.

She was a beautiful spirit and deserved better than what happened to her. She was my rock. I revolved not only my schedule but my life around her. She had to be fed every 6 hours for her dietary needs, without fail I woke up every morning at 4:00 to make sure she had something in her tummy so she wouldn't get sick. She needed her seizure medication every 12 hours which I gave her without fail. I genuinely enjoyed her company and spending time with her, I never thought of her as a chore or inconvenience. She had such a funny, sweet personality. We had a deep connection, my once-in-a-lifetime girl.

I am grieving a big loss in my life by losing Millie, she deserved to not be sick and to not pass away so young. She was still mentally sharp like she wasn't ready to go. 💔💔💔

Please note: These bills might be a small sum to you, but to me they are more than half my monthly income; they total nearly $1,300. I work full-time for a non-profit, my salary is small so we can fulfill our mission to help people nationally and coordinate with our partners, to help people globally. On top of losing my beloved Millie far too young, I was rejected by a local non-profit who helps with veterinary bills. Initially they agreed to assist with costs already incurred and for future treatments, and they were in communication/agreement with the emergency veterinary clinic. When I informed the animal non-profit that Millie passed away, they said and I quote, "Helping you would not be a good look for us." They reversed their agreements without fulfilling any financial assistance. They had wanted to use Millie for a "success story" for promotional materials to encourage others to donate to their cause.

I have had a few big, unexpected expenses every month so far this year, including breaking my foot and 3 toes. It has depleted my savings. Yes, even my tax refund. I have been doing side jobs including mowing lawns while my foot still isn't healed, I have sold items. I am still short, it's a slower process than I anticipated. GoFundMe immediately stated 88% of medical fundraisers do not reach their goal.

When I get paid from side jobs, I lower the total goal, but trying to find side jobs is sometimes difficult. I’m not irresponsible and I wouldn't ask for help like this if I didn't need it, I simply have not had time to recuperate from each large, unexpected expense before it was followed by another one within weeks of the other.

Please, if you are unable to donate in memory of Millie, share the GFM link to your social media pages as I do not have a heavy social media presence myself. Any and all help is very appreciated. 🙏🏻

https://gofund.me/ff6f97b48

u/Summer_Breeze18 — 11 hours ago

My 5 year old best friend

Please note: These bills might be a small sum to you, but to me they are more than half my monthly income. They total nearly $1,300.

My 5 year old Beagle, Millie, who seemed otherwise healthy, was lethargic one morning and I rushed her to the emergency vet. They diagnosed her as anemic; (her organs weren't getting enough oxygen from her blood), determined to be caused by leukemia. She was prescribed 4 months of steroids, weekly blood tests and check-ups, and a blood transfusion for immediate treatment.

At home and on medicine, her appetite got a little better, she jumped up on the couch to take naps. I thought she was slowly on the mend, but in the afternoon she declined. I rushed her the emergency vet again where they tried several times to resuscitate her after she collapsed in the lobby. Abruptly and unexpectedly, she passed away barely 24 hours after diagnosis. 💔💔💔

I have not had time to emotionally, mentally and financially prepare for this.

She was a beautiful spirit and deserved better than what happened to her. She was my rock. I revolved not only my schedule but my life around her. She had to be fed every 6 hours for her dietary needs, without fail I woke up every morning at 4:00 to make sure she had something in her tummy so she wouldn't get sick. She needed her seizure medication every 12 hours which I gave her without fail. I genuinely enjoyed her company and spending time with her, I never thought of her as a chore or inconvenience. She had such a funny, sweet personality. We had a deep connection, my once-in-a-lifetime girl.

I am grieving a big loss in my life by losing Millie, she deserved to not be sick and to not pass away so young. She was still mentally sharp like she wasn't ready to go. 💔💔💔

I work full-time for a non-profit, my salary is small so we can fulfill our mission to help people nationally and coordinate with our partners, to help people globally. On top of losing my beloved Millie far too young, I was rejected by a local non-profit who helps with veterinary bills. Initially they agreed to assist with costs already incurred and for future treatments, and they were in communication/agreement with the emergency veterinary clinic. When I informed the animal non-profit that Millie passed away, they said and I quote, "Helping you would not be a good look for us." They reversed their agreements without fulfilling any financial assistance. They had wanted to use Millie for a "success story" for promotional materials to encourage others to donate to their cause.

I have had a few big, unexpected expenses every month so far this year, including breaking my foot and 3 toes. It has depleted my savings. Yes, even my tax refund. I have been doing side jobs including mowing lawns while my foot still isn't healed, I have sold items. I am still short, it's a slower process than I anticipated. GoFundMe immediately stated 88% of medical fundraisers do not reach their goal.

When I get paid from side jobs, I lower the total goal, but trying to find side jobs is sometimes difficult. I’m not irresponsible and I wouldn't ask for help like this if I didn't need it, I simply have not had time to recuperate from each large, unexpected expense before it was followed by another one within weeks of the other.

Please, if you are unable to donate in memory of Millie, share the GFM link to your social media pages as I do not have a heavy social media presence myself. Any and all help is very appreciated. 🙏🏻

https://gofund.me/ff6f97b48

u/Summer_Breeze18 — 18 hours ago
🔥 Hot ▲ 610 r/DogsLoversCommunity+2 crossposts

My grief journey after losing my 5 year old best friend

I'm entering my 4th weekend since my dog passed away abruptly. I've been active in here quite a bit. You may have seen our story; my 5 year old Beagle seemed healthy up until the morning she was lethargic. She was diagnosed with anemia (her organs weren't getting enough oxygen from her blood), likely caused by leukemia. Barely 24 hours later, she passed away, after they tried multiple attempts of CPR.

I have never lost a dog young or unexpectedly. I know that sounds stupid, "She had cancer, of course it'll be expected at some point" some might think. But she wasn't showing symptoms. She was on seizure medication for 7 months and the main side effect is drowsiness. She seemed tired after walks, but that wasn't out of the ordinary of our new normal for the last 7 months. The day before she was lethargic, she was playful and engaged in her typical habits and behavior.

Here's what I discovered along this unexpected path we were both forced into:

  1. Let yourself grieve the way you need to. There is no wrong or right way. If you need to talk about it, do that. If you need to journal about it, do that. If you need to lay in bed and watch comfort shows or movies, do that. If you can't stand sitting still and need to leave the house, do that.
  2. It's okay to take time off work or cancel plans in order to grieve. Don't push yourself too hard. Our grief is proportionate to how much we love our pet, give yourself grace and compassion.
  3. It's okay to do hours and hours that turn into days of research to make sense of what happened to your pet. It won't change anything, but it will help us heal even if it's not in that exact moment.
  4. If you don't have an appetite, eat a little something anyways. You don't want to make your own body sick while you're already feeling crummy.
  5. If you need to get involved in local shelters, or dog-walk, or pet-sit for friends, to be in the company of animals but aren't ready emotionally to take on another one of your own, do that.
  6. I talk out loud, often, daily to my dog's ashes. I talk out loud to her blankets and bed. I smell her favorited stuffed animal toys. If it helps you grieve, do that. If removing their items helps you grieve, do that too.
  7. It's okay to be angry about losing your pet and/or the circumstances of what happened to them. It's normal. It will fade with time as you get more acclimated to them being gone. It still sucks, but it becomes easier to not hyper-fixate on.

Today is the first day in 4 weeks that the good memories of my dog have outweighed the tragic and traumatic manner in which she passed away. I know not every day will feel like today. Yesterday, I cried for several hours straight. Tears rolled out fast enough it was like a stream in the middle of a water slide you ride down in an innertube with at an amusement park. Most days are like yesterday. And I'm giving myself grace about that. Give yourself grace, too.

u/Summer_Breeze18 — 7 hours ago

What is the etiquette?

I had a rescue for several years before she passed away. I am looking at adopting a puppy from a breeder. This particular breed isn't super popular in my area, but I did find 3 breeders. Two of which look borderline puppy mills, their dogs don't look all that healthy.

One evening earlier this week, I emailed the third, asking if she still breeds because the website was malfunctioning. She responded the next morning, saying she got out breeding a few years ago, but she did hang onto a male and female from her last litters (they're not brother and sister). She hinted she may not have successfully kept the male away from the female during her heat cycle, she said she'll know in a couple more weeks because right now the female is hard to read either way.

I replied that evening, I asked if that meant she could possibly have a litter ready for adoption eventually, but if not, does she have another responsible breeder she could recommend?

She replied back the next morning, saying if her dog is pregnant, they puppies would be born in 6 weeks and she doesn't have a recommendation for me. She said what makes her a responsible breeder and how she doesn't know anyone who goes to the lengths she does as far as testing and healthcare.

I replied back that evening, asking if it's not too much trouble, could she please let me know when she finds out for sure if the female is pregnant or not because if she is, I'm interested in getting a puppy from her and I "sold" myself as a responsible pet caregiver.

She hasn't replied back. Our usual pattern is I email at night, she emails the next morning, I email that evening, she replies the next morning. It's been 2 mornings she could have replied, and didn't. I can't tell if she's blowing me off? Or is she waiting to reply until she finds out if her dog is pregnant? I would think she'd reply with "I'll let you know when I know" instead of kind of leaving me hanging. I worry I came on too strongly.

I don't know what to make of it, I don't know the usual breeder etiquette? We seemed to have good communication before.

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u/Summer_Breeze18 — 3 days ago
🔥 Hot ▲ 52 r/Petloss

My grief journey

I'm entering my 4th weekend since my dog passed away abruptly. I've been active in here quite a bit. You may have seen our story; my 5 year old Beagle seemed healthy up until the morning she was lethargic. She was diagnosed with anemia (her organs weren't getting enough oxygen from her blood), likely caused by leukemia. Barely 24 hours later, she passed away, after they tried multiple attempts of CPR.

I have never lost a dog young or unexpectedly. I know that sounds stupid, "She had cancer, of course it'll be expected at some point" some might think. But she wasn't showing symptoms. She was on seizure medication for 7 months and the main side effect is drowsiness. She seemed tired after walks, but that wasn't out of the ordinary of our new normal for the last 7 months. The day before she was lethargic, she was playful and engaged in her typical habits and behavior.

Here's what I discovered along this unexpected path we were both forced into:

  1. Let yourself grieve the way you need to. There is no wrong or right way. If you need to talk about it, do that. If you need to journal about it, do that. If you need to lay in bed and watch comfort shows or movies, do that. If you can't stand sitting still and need to leave the house, do that.
  2. It's okay to take time off work or cancel plans in order to grieve. Don't push yourself too hard. Our grief is proportionate to how much we love our pet, give yourself grace and compassion.
  3. It's okay to do hours and hours that turn into days of research to make sense of what happened to your pet. It won't change anything, but it will help us heal even if it's not in that exact moment.
  4. If you don't have an appetite, eat a little something anyways. You don't want to make your own body sick while you're already feeling crummy.
  5. If you need to get involved in local shelters, or dog-walk, or pet-sit for friends, to be in the company of animals but aren't ready emotionally to take on another one of your own, do that.
  6. I talk out loud, often, daily to my dog's ashes. I talk out loud to her blankets and bed. I smell her favorited stuffed animal toys. If it helps you grieve, do that. If removing their items helps you grieve, do that too.

Today is the first day in 4 weeks that the good memories of my dog have outweighed the tragic and traumatic manner in which she passed away. I know not every day will feel like today. Yesterday, I cried for several hours straight. Tears rolled out fast enough it was like a stream in the middle of a water slide you ride down in an innertube with at an amusement park. Most days are like yesterday. And I'm giving myself grace about that. Give yourself grace, too.

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u/Summer_Breeze18 — 3 days ago
🔥 Hot ▲ 56 r/GoFundMeForNewUsers

My 5 year old best friend and her emergency care

Please note: These bills might be a small sum to you, but to me they are more than half my monthly income. They total nearly $1,300.

My 5 year old Beagle, Millie, who seemed otherwise healthy, was lethargic one morning and I rushed her to the emergency vet. They diagnosed her as anemic; (her organs weren't getting enough oxygen from her blood), determined to be caused by leukemia. She was prescribed 4 months of steroids, weekly blood tests and check-ups, and a blood transfusion for immediate treatment.

At home and on medicine, her appetite got a little better, she jumped up on the couch to take naps. I thought she was slowly on the mend, but in the afternoon she declined. I rushed her the emergency vet again where they tried several times to resuscitate her after she collapsed in the lobby. Abruptly and unexpectedly, she passed away barely 24 hours after diagnosis. 💔💔💔

I have not had time to emotionally, mentally and financially prepare for this.

She was a beautiful spirit and deserved better than what happened to her. She was my rock. I revolved not only my schedule but my life around her. She had to be fed every 6 hours for her dietary needs, without fail I woke up every morning at 4:00 to make sure she had something in her tummy so she wouldn't get sick. She needed her seizure medication every 12 hours which I gave her without fail. I genuinely enjoyed her company and spending time with her, I never thought of her as a chore or inconvenience. She had such a funny, sweet personality. We had a deep connection, my once-in-a-lifetime girl.

I am grieving a big loss in my life by losing Millie, she deserved to not be sick and to not pass away so young. She was still mentally sharp like she wasn't ready to go. 💔💔💔

I work full-time for a non-profit, my salary is small so we can fulfill our mission to help people nationally and coordinate with our partners, to help people globally. On top of losing my beloved Millie far too young, I was rejected by a local non-profit who helps with veterinary bills. Initially they agreed to assist with costs already incurred and for future treatments, and they were in communication/agreement with the emergency veterinary clinic. When I informed the animal non-profit that Millie passed away, they said and I quote, "Helping you would not be a good look for us." They reversed their agreements without fulfilling any financial assistance. They had wanted to use Millie for a "success story" for promotional materials to encourage others to donate to their cause.

I have had a few big, unexpected expenses every month so far this year, including breaking my foot and 3 toes. It has depleted my savings. Yes, even my tax refund. I have been doing side jobs including mowing lawns while my foot still isn't healed, I have sold items, I have given plasma. I am still short. GoFundMe immediately stated 88% of medical fundraisers do not reach their goal. (Despite the macro-goal GoFundMe shows you on the public-facing link, the total goal was $1,100, not what it is currently showing you around $700.)

When I get paid from side jobs, I lower the total goal, but I'm still not close to where I need to be. I’m not irresponsible and I wouldn't ask for help like this if I didn't need it, I simply have not had time to recuperate from each large, unexpected expense before it was followed by another one within weeks of each other.

Please, if you are unable to donate in memory of Millie, share the GFM link to your social media pages as I do not have a heavy social media presence myself. Any and all help is very appreciated. 🙏🏻

https://gofund.me/ff6f97b48

u/Summer_Breeze18 — 3 days ago
🔥 Hot ▲ 78 r/gofundme

My 5 year old best friend and her emergency care

Please note: These bills might be a small sum to you, but to me they are more than half my monthly income. They total nearly $1,300.

My 5 year old Beagle, Millie, who seemed otherwise healthy, was lethargic one morning and I rushed her to the emergency vet. They diagnosed her as anemic; (her organs weren't getting enough oxygen from her blood), determined to be caused by leukemia. She was prescribed 4 months of steroids, weekly blood tests and check-ups, and a blood transfusion for immediate treatment.

At home and on medicine, her appetite got a little better, she jumped up on the couch to take naps. I thought she was slowly on the mend, but in the afternoon she declined. I rushed her the emergency vet again where they tried several times to resuscitate her after she collapsed in the lobby. Abruptly and unexpectedly, she passed away barely 24 hours after diagnosis. 💔💔💔

I have not had time to emotionally, mentally and financially prepare for this.

She was a beautiful spirit and deserved better than what happened to her. She was my rock. I revolved not only my schedule but my life around her. She had to be fed every 6 hours for her dietary needs, without fail I woke up every morning at 4:00 to make sure she had something in her tummy so she wouldn't get sick. She needed her seizure medication every 12 hours which I gave her without fail. I genuinely enjoyed her company and spending time with her, I never thought of her as a chore or inconvenience. She had such a funny, sweet personality. We had a deep connection, my once-in-a-lifetime girl.

I am grieving a big loss in my life by losing Millie, she deserved to not be sick and to not pass away so young. She was still mentally sharp like she wasn't ready to go. 💔💔💔

I work full-time for a non-profit, my salary is small so we can fulfill our mission to help people nationally and coordinate with our partners, to help people globally. On top of losing my beloved Millie far too young, I was rejected by a local non-profit who helps with veterinary bills. Initially they agreed to assist with costs already incurred and for future treatments, and they were in communication/agreement with the emergency veterinary clinic. When I informed the animal non-profit that Millie passed away, they said and I quote, "Helping you would not be a good look for us." They reversed their agreements without fulfilling any financial assistance. They had wanted to use Millie for a "success story" for promotional materials to encourage others to donate to their cause.

I have had a few big, unexpected expenses every month so far this year, including breaking my foot and 3 toes. It has depleted my savings. Yes, even my tax refund. I have been doing side jobs including mowing lawns while my foot still isn't healed, I have sold items, I have given plasma. I am still short. GoFundMe immediately stated 88% of medical fundraisers do not reach their goal. (Despite the macro-goal GoFundMe shows you on the public-facing link, the total goal was $1,100, not what it is currently showing you around $700.)

When I get paid from side jobs, I lower the total goal, but I'm still not close to where I need to be. I’m not irresponsible and I wouldn't ask for help like this if I didn't need it, I simply have not had time to recuperate from each large, unexpected expense before it was followed by another one within weeks of each other.

Please, if you are unable to donate in memory of Millie, share the GFM link to your social media pages as I do not have a heavy social media presence myself. Any and all help is very appreciated. 🙏🏻

https://gofund.me/ff6f97b48

u/Summer_Breeze18 — 3 days ago

My 5 year old best friend and her emergency care

Please note: These bills might be a small sum to you, but to me they are more than half my monthly income. They total nearly $1,300.

My 5 year old Beagle, Millie, who seemed otherwise healthy, was lethargic one morning and I rushed her to the emergency vet. They diagnosed her as anemic; (her organs weren't getting enough oxygen from her blood), determined to be caused by leukemia. She was prescribed 4 months of steroids, weekly blood tests and check-ups, and a blood transfusion for immediate treatment.

At home and on medicine, her appetite got a little better, she jumped up on the couch to take naps. I thought she was slowly on the mend, but in the afternoon she declined. I rushed her the emergency vet again where they tried several times to resuscitate her after she collapsed in the lobby. Abruptly and unexpectedly, she passed away barely 24 hours after diagnosis. 💔💔💔

I have not had time to emotionally, mentally and financially prepare for this.

She was a beautiful spirit and deserved better than what happened to her. She was my rock. I revolved not only my schedule but my life around her. She had to be fed every 6 hours for her dietary needs, without fail I woke up every morning at 4:00 to make sure she had something in her tummy so she wouldn't get sick. She needed her seizure medication every 12 hours which I gave her without fail. I genuinely enjoyed her company and spending time with her, I never thought of her as a chore or inconvenience. She had such a funny, sweet personality. We had a deep connection, my once-in-a-lifetime girl.

I am grieving a big loss in my life by losing Millie, she deserved to not be sick and to not pass away so young. She was still mentally sharp like she wasn't ready to go. 💔💔💔

I work full-time for a non-profit, my salary is small so we can fulfill our mission to help people nationally and coordinate with our partners, to help people globally. On top of losing my beloved Millie far too young, I was rejected by a local non-profit who helps with veterinary bills. Initially they agreed to assist with costs already incurred and for future treatments, and they were in communication/agreement with the emergency veterinary clinic. When I informed the animal non-profit that Millie passed away, they said and I quote, "Helping you would not be a good look for us." They reversed their agreements without fulfilling any financial assistance. They had wanted to use Millie for a "success story" for promotional materials to encourage others to donate to their cause.

I have had a few big, unexpected expenses every month so far this year, including breaking my foot and 3 toes. It has depleted my savings. Yes, even my tax refund. I have been doing side jobs including mowing lawns while my foot still isn't healed, I have sold items, I have given plasma. I am still short. GoFundMe immediately stated 88% of medical fundraisers do not reach their goal. (Despite the macro-goal GoFundMe shows you on the public-facing link, the total goal was $1,100, not what it is currently showing you around $700.)

When I get paid from side jobs, I lower the total goal, but I'm still not close to where I need to be. I’m not irresponsible and I wouldn't ask for help like this if I didn't need it, I simply have not had time to recuperate from each large, unexpected expense before it was followed by another one within weeks of each other.

Please, if you are unable to donate in memory of Millie, share the GFM link to your social media pages as I do not have a heavy social media presence myself. Any and all help is very appreciated. 🙏🏻

https://gofund.me/ff6f97b48

u/Summer_Breeze18 — 3 days ago