I don’t regret not reporting it and it’s not my responsibility if he does it to someone else
I got a bit of backlash in my DM’s from a previous post in a rape support subreddit about how not reporting my rape makes me partly responsible if he does it again to someone else.
I know this may seem bad and people may judge me, but I am not responsible for his actions, what he does is not my concern and if I was in the same position again, I still wouldn’t report it.
I don’t want to be interviewed and interrogated by police, some of which who won’t believe me. I don’t want my body examined, swabbed, photographed and treated like a crime scene. I don’t want my life dissected and exposed by the defence, I don’t want to have to defend myself in a court room full of strangers. I don’t want everyone in my life to see me differently and treat me like a victim. I don’t want my friends and family to have that image of me in their heads.
I’m not cut out for any of that and I’ve accepted that.
So I would make the same decision. Every. Time.
And anything he does in the future is absolutely nothing to do with me. I don’t owe anything to anyone. Self care and moving on is more important to me than a hypothetical situation a hypothetical stranger could be in.
I would feel terrible if I knew he had done it to someone else, but I wouldn’t be responsible.