Hi,
My (35F) husband (40M) has a job offer overseas. He plans to be there for two years at least.
Unfortunately, I will not be able to find a job or transfer in the destination country, because the job market there is not good for my industry (niche sales role) and I don't speak the local language.
Financially, I am doing well for my age group, with enough savings, and have no liabilities yet, no kids. We stay with his parents with no property (yet)
I'm at a loss about what to do.
I'm worried that if I follow, my 2 year gap will be a huge turn-off for future employers, especially given my age close approaching 40.
We have discussed an LDR, but I don't want to do that either, especially since we have only gotten married this year, but I still want to be gainfully employed in my field.
Common advice that I got was:
- Do further studies > the destination does not have any widelyknow universities
- Start a family > not keen
- Start a business > no ideas, scared of risks
- Remote work > not possible in my current role (sales hunter, face time)
- Have husband turn down the offer > husband wants to do it, since he is very career minded, and I am willing to support him.
The option that we are leaning most towards is us going, and me pursuing hobbies - cooking/gardening/painting
Has anyone been a long-term trailing spouse? How did it work out for you? What did you keep busy with? And was it difficult to get back to work after the years of unemployment - especially for professional roles?
Thank you - please be kind.