u/Stegasaurus5

Is checking really so rigorous in all the centres?

The checking in my centre was just torturous.

First they checked by metal detectors. It was fine. Then they checked by putting hands all over my clothes. Still it was fine. Then the real torture began.

They literally told all of us to remove our T shirt and show our Bra. Literally BRA. The female guard then checked my bra by touching it and she even checked my cleavage to see whether I was hiding anything there. Like wtf.

Then she said to us to show our panties. Like literally the underpants. I had my periods yesterday. So it was hell for me.

It didn't end there. She saw that I was having my periods. She literally said to me go inside the bathroom and show me the pad. She tells me that this is to check whether I am hiding anything in my PAD.

Like literally who does that? Who is that much mad to do that?

NTA if you are so much worried about unfair means then do something else to check. This was straight assault. All the girls of our centre were facing this. Who does this?

I saw one post where people in some centres were allowed to enter wearing coloured t shirts and all that. And we were literally going through this.

The checking in my centre was just torturous.

First they checked by metal detectors. It was fine. Then they checked by putting hands all over my clothes. Still it was fine. Then the real torture began.

They literally told all of us to remove our T shirt and show our Bra. Literally BRA. The female guard then checked my bra by touching it and she even checked my cleavage to see whether I was hiding anything there. Like wtf.

Then she said to us to show our panties. Like literally the underpants. I had my periods yesterday. So it was hell for me.

It didn't end there. She saw that I was having my periods. She literally said to me go inside the bathroom and show me the pad. She tells me that this is to check whether I am hiding anything in my PAD.

Like literally who does that? Who is that much mad to do that?

NTA if you are so much worried about unfair means then do something else to check. This was straight assault. All the girls of our centre were facing this. Who does this?

I saw one post where people in some centres were allowed to enter wearing coloured t shirts and all that. And we were literally going through this.

I liked a guy. But I cannot be in a relationship with him because of family and myself

I am 20 now.

I commented on a guy's post on Reddit regarding relationships 14 days ago. He DMed me and we started chatting. We chatted literally for so many hours everyday. We had so much in common. He would listen to me, we would discuss topics on religion, politics, history and science. He was literally my soulmate.

After 4 days he asked would I be his girlfriend.

I was hesitant because my mother is very strict and I told him so. It was my first relationship. He said to me if you will be by my side I can handle anything. I was scared but just for that one time I listened to my heart.

We were attracted to each other emotionally. Literally after asking each other out I asked for his picture. He never pressured me. He said to me he doesn't care how I look like, he just likes me talking about things that people normally don't talk about. My friends were telling me both of you are falling too fast. We didn't listen to them.

After accepting his proposal we met once on a Train. He literally missed his train but still he came to see me by booking another train. We clicked pictures, held hands. I felt like a princess.

Then I talked with my mother. My mother said to me don't get into a relationship ever. She is strongly against love marriage. I can never go against her because she was beside me during my drop year when no one was beside me.

I then realised we never would have any future. Our relationship would later lead to heartbreak.

I messaged him this morning. He didn't fight. He just asked me are you sure about this. I said yes even though I was holding back my tears. He said ok hope your life will be good.

He has some mental scars of the past. We shared everything with each other. We were so much connected emotionally. But I don't want to hurt him. I have already hurt him enough.

But I cannot leave my mother too. My hostel friend warned me that my mother will never accept it.

But still I listened to my heart and now I am realising how foolish I was. I can never betray my mother because she is my whole world.

But I liked him too.

I know I am in the wrong here. Literally nothing was wrong with him. And that's why it is hurting me.

I am just drowning in this spiral of guilt and sadness.

Sorry to vent here but I have literally no one to talk about this.