Why do I get mental ED with current gf
I’m a 37 male with a long term relationship with my gf of almost 5 years.
I have had other GFs in the past, one night encounters and have had some issues with ED on first time sex with someone new and Quickly got over it and have Been very strong in the bedroom all other times.
But since I’ve started dating my gf I’ve had many bouts of ED since the beginning. At first I thought it was because I was getting in my mid 30s and maybe my test was low. Tested that and I hit a 857 so that’s not an issue. I’ve tried jerking off less. Gone a whole month to two months of no sex and no jerking off and when we finally have sex I get hard for 1 min then quickly goes soft and can’t do anything else.
I’ve been taking mental notes for a while now and when it does happen I get like an instant brain fog like feeling, I can feel my nerves tingle throughout my whole body. I’ve led to believe it is all because of my mental causing this issue. I’ve tried viagra and others and they work and sometimes after use the ED will go away from some time. But always seems to return and idk what to do.
I will note that I’ve always had a very high Libido and my gf does not. She is fine without any sex, touch or even talk about sex ever so I have had moments where I feel unwanted physically. But when she will bring up if we can have sex I start to over think and feel the brain fog feeling start to happen and feel my body get weird feeling and no matter if she starts by going down on me, jerking me off etc I know it’s a losing battle just to lose it upon entry.
I workout often, eat healthy, am a runner so my physical is there just don’t know what to do with the mental aspect.
It just happened just now and we havnt had sex and I havnt masturbated for three weeks. Oh and also no porn use either. Just an extremely frustrated with myself.