Is my college essay topic too cliche? (I'm a Quadruplet)
As a quadruplet, everyone thinks I have a college essay handed to me...
Trust me...it's not that easy.
I need honest opinions because I genuinely can’t tell if this is a good idea or if I’m about to write the most cliché college essay ever ..
I’m thinking about writing my essay about growing up as a quadruplet and how hard I’ve always tried to be seen as my own person instead of just “one of the four.” A lot of my life I’ve been super competitive and honestly I’ve fought (sometimes literally, not proud of it) to prove points and be right. Like I would argue until I won, because being right felt like control and like I was actually being taken seriously even when I knew I was damaging relationships.
At the same time, I’ve always been pretty ambitious and tied a lot of my worth to achievements, leadership, grades, being right, etc., because I felt like I needed something that was mine in order to stand out and be seen as an individual.
That mindset kind of hit a breaking point when my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. There was a lot of stress, conflict, and just emotional overload in my family during that time, and I remember someone really important to me asking me, “Would you rather be right or be loved?” It was honestly asked at one of the worst moments of conflict, and at the time I didn’t really know how to respond. I love being right... but to what extent...?
When I look back on it now, it kind of sticks with me differently. I think it made me realize how much of my identity had been wrapped up in proving myself, being right, and earning validation instead of just… being present with people. and building up (rather than tearing down) my most cherished relationships just to "win"
really I was losing and didn't realize.
So yeah. I’m wondering if this whole idea is too cliché....I just don’t want it to sound like every other “I learned who I am through adversity” essay that admissions officers have to suffer through
I NEED TO GET INTO A GOOD FL COLLEGE! UF OR FSU is my DREAM!