u/Snowy_Stelar

I think if I was aplatonic, that would actually be something I'd have to process. I didn't need to process that I'm aroallo, I always knew and always felt it. I didn't need to process being alterhuman, same thing, I just found a label for my feelings. I didn't need to process being afamilial. But I think I would need to process being aplatonic. It makes me feel really bad just thinking I might be..

I like having friends, I enjoy their presence, I like being able to talk to them and pass time with them and laugh together... at first. I get a really big bond with them, and then suddenly that bond starts to fade. And I feel really bad about it because we were so close together, and then nope I don't feel it anymore your presence feels forced now. The more time I spend with someone, the faster it starts fading.

I feel horrible, that would make me a horrible friend. I mean, I'm pretty sure I'm a good friend while I still feel that bond, but once it fades, am I still a good friend? If they don't feel like a friend to me anymore? If I feels kind of forced to hang out with them? How good am I then? I'm basically abandoning them after all the memories we made together, after we told each other our deepest secrets and feelings.

And I still want friends afterwards, but new friends, ones I don't have a big bond with yet, but I know it'll fade again once we spend a little too much time together.

Am I really frayplatonic? Where should I start if I need to accept that? Should I just not make friends, since I know it'll fade and I'll want to leave? I'm okay being alone it doesn't bother me much, but I do like having friends...

I'm not trying to be weird or anything, I mean this genuinely. I'm neurodivergent and there's some concepts that I don't understand, and sexualization is part of those concepts. I often read and hear about how women are being sexualized, trans people are being sexualized, all kinds of things are being sexualized and I don't really understand it, I don't understand what it's supposed to mean. The way I perceive it, people seem to be attracted to some things, and it's labeled as sexualization and a bad thing. I feel bad about not understanding it because it seems like a pretty bad issue that's often debated about and I don't understand this issue... Can someone define it to me and maybe contextualize the definition so I can understand it better?

Edit : thank you so much everyone, now I understand it much better. Basically it's viewing something as mainly sexual when it was never intended, not meant to be sexual, and not consented. I now understand why this is such an issue and why it can infuriate people when this happens. I think the reason I had a hard time understanding it was because it's starting to get normalized, and I fell for the "being sexualized is a compliment because it means they're attracted to you" kind of speach. But it's not a compliment, because sexualization is when it's not consented and not intended, so it just feels creepy. It's also not to be mixed up with kinks because kinks are in fact consented, so it wouldn't be negative in this context as long as all parties are consenting to the kink. Thank you all for this clarification.

Base flag

https://preview.redd.it/oap4yz1yfiyg1.jpg?width=2206&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=162b49b46fee16262e2aea67178266d0bfca2388

with aquarine symbol (grey)

https://preview.redd.it/5ctqy02yfiyg1.jpg?width=2206&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e0e7b60500aeed0842a2f2dc83d7eeec269e7ad3

with aquarine symbol (black)

https://preview.redd.it/s9f4j9lzfiyg1.jpg?width=2206&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a4a25de52ee164726e5ea5da78c00481c71ad2d1

Waveicgender is a gender related to water waves. It can be XIN and/or AQUIN. It may be related to waves temselves and/or the way they flow and move in the water.

It may be, but doesn't have to be :
- Fluid/flux, as a flowing wave
- Linked to an alterhuman identity
- Specific to a certain type of wave, such as ocean waves, river waves, pond waves, etc.

Feel free to use this flag as reference if you wish to coin a more specific label based off of this one, please credit the original flag if you do so.

Hello, I'm about to coin a term and this is the flag I made for it, I'd just like some help to check and make sure this flag doesn't already exist for another term before I coin it. Thank you for your help :)

https://preview.redd.it/ell8soc8dayg1.jpg?width=2224&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c00fe07a212e5df9fe428fc6aa6d36a70f9a08aa