10 months TTC after ectopic pregnancy
Hi everyone. I’m mostly posting to see if anyone can relate because I’m starting to feel really alone in this.
About 13 months ago, I had an ectopic pregnancy and was given MTX. We waited to start trying again, and now we’ve officially been TTC again for 10 months with not a single positive test. Before this, I had gotten pregnant with my husband multiple times, so this whole experience has been really confusing and emotionally draining.
What’s making this harder is that I constantly see stories of women getting pregnant again within 1–3 cycles after their ectopic. I know everyone’s journey is different, but it’s hard not to feel like something must be wrong with me at this point.
We are working with a fertility clinic. My husband’s testing came back good, and I’ve been doing monitored cycles/letrozole, but every month that passes without even a faint positive gets harder mentally. I think part of me expected that because I had gotten pregnant before, it would happen again quickly.
I also feel stuck between hope and fear all the time. I desperately want to be pregnant again, but after experiencing loss and an ectopic, TTC doesn’t feel exciting anymore. It mostly feels stressful and scary.
I guess I’m just looking to hear from anyone who took longer to conceive after an ectopic and still eventually had success. Did anyone else experience a long gap afterward even though they had been pregnant before?