u/Sammy-28-23

Okay for context, I am currently 14. My dad was raised with a Panamanian step father and was raised in the culture. Then, my dad raised me in Hispanic culture (Taught me how to cook some traditional foods, taught me how to dance, taught me a bit of Spanish, etc.)

So of course, growing up in the culture and with Hispanic family, my dad has told me he wants me to have a quinceañera. I expressed my concerns of how I was uncomfortable since technically, I’m

Not biologically Hispanic. He said since I grew up in the culture, it makes sense for me to have a quince. He also added that my abuelo would love to throw me one.

I was thinking about this and like a couple months ago, my friend’s mom said how she would love to throw me a sweet sixteen.

So I told my dad about it yesterday, and he asked why not do a mix of both. A sweet sixteen with some quince traditions, such as a father daughter dance to El Cantante by Héctor Lavoe (our favorite song to dance to), a possible mirror dance, but some sort of dance with my younger cousin, who would’ve next to have a quince, and the passing of the crown to her.

I feel more comfortable with this idea than just a full blown out quince since again, I’m not actually Hispanic, but it feels exhilarating to celebrate the culture I grew up in.

However, I’m still a bit worried that it’s disrespectful, so I’m coming on here to ask if it is disrespectful, or is it actually okay for me to have a mix of both a sweet sixteen and a quince.

PS: If this is offensive in any way I deeply apologize and it was not my intention. Also, if this post is worded wrong or I didn’t explain correctly, I also apologize for that. It’s my first Reddit post, I’m kind of nervous.

Please be kind and thank you so much for reading this long ahh rant!!

Summary: Wondering if it’s disrespectful to have a mix of a sweet sixteen and a quince in one celebration if I grew up in Hispanic culture but I’m not actually Hispanic.