GoFundMe Advice &Timing
Hello!
I have been living with mTNBC since Oct 2022. Started as stage 2… 14 months later, turned into stage 4 with lung Mets. After 3 cancelled surgeries, one lung met multiples into 26 and surgery was cancelled. I returned to 8 more months of chemo. I then was able to have a lobectomy last summer, got married in the fall and then started back at work in January. This Feb, we discovered brain Mets and I have a craniotomy and gamma knife. I’m 41 years old.
After the brain Mets, my friend organized a GoFundMe and it amazingly raised $42,000 (I live in Canada, but have spent about that much so far in complementary treatments and fertility preservation). The money will go towards the variety of treatments, services I access to complement medical care.
Long story short, we have also been closely building a house at the lake over the period of ten years. We always thought we pick away at it slowly. My husband now wants to RUSH the build and instead now wants to sell our house and use the equity to fund the new build. I believe he mainly wants to do it FOR US because he is scared about the future…
He doesn’t like the idea of the GoFundMe and doesn’t want anything to do the money (he told me two weeks after the GFM that he wanted to sell the house). I put the money into a separate bank account to use purely for cancer related costs. HOWEVER, I’m very worried about optics and what people may think… does it “look bad” to sell our house immediately after a GFM and then build a house? I know it’s not where the money is coming from, but I am so insecure about judgment.
Thank you so munch! I’m losing sleep over this and feeling very stressed.🙏