u/ResidentDesigner8715

I understand that everyone relationship work differently according to the individual wants and needs. But every time I come across a dating podcast, it usually align with the podcast personal biases. Especially red pill contents, oh my god. I came here to seek what a healthy relationship look like, not what it specifically looks like in your own way. I noticed that people who are relationship consultant, therapists, and other people who work in the mental health field. Their advices are different from the ones I heard from podcasters.

I remember when I was talking to my therapist, she acknowledged that I have set boundaries and standards which is good to have bcuz it shows I know what I want. But she said I putting them too high and tend to pull away the second it doesn't match any of my values. (She was right, I think these dating podcast really got in my head). It really wasn't bad to have someone to align with most of my values and it is really exciting to have someone who is very different from my values.

I actually so sick and tired of the dating norms we are held to in terms of gender. It no wonder why the gender gap is so big nowadays. Most women are already actively rejecting their gender-based dating norms. But men? I'm not so sure about that. I still see a lot of pressure of traditional male role to be a provider and protecter. I do agree that traditional gender roles are outdated and traditional relationships are not exactly ideal due to power imbalance and unequal labor etc.

For notes: I am an aroace so I don't typically follow dating norms and pursue a more unique way of relationship. I hate the pressure society put on me to be more "desirable" for a "high-value man". What do you mean by "desirable"? Are you advocating me to become a pick me girl? Doesn't that make sense? Cause pick me girl tend seek male validation and put other women down to show that they're more "desirable". I also hate how romantic love is considered above platonic love rather than equally valuable.

In general, I just want a relationship that blurs the line platonic and romantic affection. Like in the relationship, we're like friends go out having fun and spending time together. I'm not sure how to explain it but it like more than friends but less than lovers. And I do believe that what a generally healthy relationship look like, it not always romantic and kissing and cuddling. No, it be two people happy in each other company and seeking to have fun together.

IMO, the emotional connection matters more than the relationship status. "Men and women can't be friends" Partner or not, if we are emotionally connected and it is mutual. People nowadays are little too possessive nowadays. You don't need to be with your partner 24/7 and your partner doesn't just have connections with you and they are allowed to have connections with others and that could actually be beneficial to their well-being. We humans are social creatures and social interactions are a fundamental need.

Edit:I am sorry that this is so long and you can clearly tell my frustration in this writing. I also took a lot of time which community is best to post since I don't use reddit too often. Also I appreciate your guys advices since I do not consume any pill content and tend to avoid them. I only have a general idea of certain pill content.

I have an upcoming concert for next week and next month. For both concerts, I been wanting to do glittery makeup so it can bling or shine under the light.

The main problem is that stage lights are heavily bright and can easily washed off your makeup. I can put a much of blush and It will look like it fading away. And this is my first time wearing glittery makeup on the stage too so I don't know how it looks or function differently from matte or glowy makeup.

The certain areas I want to target is the lips, cheeks, eyes, and nose. However, both the concert themes are more mythical-like in a more mature way, like not really cutesy. And I have a fairly baby face that makes me look younger than my actual age. I want to look older but not in a wrinkly way but in more mature way.

Because I putting a much of glitter, should I considered to target my eyes to make myself look more mature?

I notice more dramatic lashes covers about half of my eyes which makes me look like I have siren eyes. I do think it makes me older in some way but eyeliner is also something I struggle with under the bright stage lights.

Sexism is often a hostile term and seen as hostile. When we see the word sexism, we often think of belligerent attitudes towards a specific gender. But benevolent sexism is the opposite with sexism being covered up from positive attitudes.

Benevolent sexism is an affectionate but patronizing attitude to women. Women are seen as delicate and caring yet weak and need protection. While perceived as hospitable, it restricts women to a dependent and nurturing roles.

This can be manifested as "I don't fight women" or "I truly think women should be protected at any scenario".

While these are positive remarks, it often indicates women need male protection. I do agree women are as capable as men. Which means women can manage hardship without needing a man to do it for her.

However benevolent sexism is created to reinforce traditional gender roles and punishes women who do not follow the traditional roles. Benevolent sexism tends to reward women who follow the traditional gender roles.

It act as a long-term tactic to keep the patriarchy running, especially when some women hold these views. I would much rather see an egalitarianism view than a subtler form of sexism view that seen as inferior that needs help.

Edit:Because benevolent sexism is not as talked about as hostile sexism. I think benevolent sexism is just a way to persist gender-based discrimination towards women-just in a different way. If benevolent sexism was more talked about, I think we will speed up the process of dismantling the patriarchy and working towards a more egalitarian world.

I know many people feel the same way, life felt so vibrant before the 2019 pandemic. But I can't help not but feel like life is rapidly draining its own colors.

Beside increase of life dissatisfaction. I felt like another revolutionary or war is gonna happen. I'm not sure how to explain it but I feel like there is so much angry people in today society. I feel like I have to constantly fight in order to survive. Especially when back then felt so simple and stress-free. Now people are extremely activists on protesting and debating. (Almost like we are trying to fix the world). Societal views and values are shifting, And I'm guessing it a way to create happiness in our lives.

Everyday I wake up feeling tired and feel that something is gonna happen like always. In addition I think it the dreams I keep getting. I keep having dreams of people becoming refugees while violence are being fired around us.

I really don't wanna sound crazy or delusional. But I also want to know if anyone feel something similar to my intuition. At the same time I wanna get out of this era. A glimpse of my heart hope that a revolutionary happens to results positive outcomes. In today society, I feel like we don't have one person making changes but instead we are working as a whole.

Edit:I forgot to mention that there is a lot of international tension between countries. It make me concerned if WW3 might happen. It really hard to say but I can definitely say the chances of it happening is validated. Which is why I think why life doesn't feel so bright anymore, and why I'm making this post. Annexation, time is also moving faster than it did. I remember when I was bored, 30 minutes felt like 6 hours. But now when I'm bored, 30 minutes felt like 1 hour. I genuinely don't remember time moving this fast.