Parents are mentally abusing and oppressing me.
I’m a 25 years old muslim female from India. Mumbai specifically. I’m here to write something out and get others’ opinions on this matter. So I’m an only child and while my parents care for me recently I’ve started to feel very oppressed and controlled. My mom’s been somewhat emotionally abusive to me since childhood. My father’s been sort of absent in many ways. Mostly involved with his friends. Like he only ever goes out with them. Never planned and executed a trip with my mom and me. So basically I only know “family trips” through either friends or movies I guess. But I’ve made my peace with it now. I don’t even wish to travel with him anywhere. I just feel bad for my mom sometimes.
Anyways, one of my best friend is getting married this year end and our group planned a trip to the north in May. We booked flights, stay and all. So yesterday I told my dad about it. Mom already knew (she was denying but she cane around). But my dad just started yelling that there’s no need to. I have already been there in Jan. And I didn’t “ask” him. I’m just informing. I know I did go there in Jan but it was a different place. And in my defence, I’m fucking 25. I don’t need permission anymore. I know how to take care of myself. I earn so I’m even using my own money obviously. I have stopped expecting monetary help from him since I started earning. That’s a story for another time. But yeah, is this right? During that argument I did tell him that I’m 25 and I won’t be asking him everything anymore. It’s pretty annoying convincing, over explaining myself, begging and what not. I’m genuinely exhausted of it all. He kept saying that I’ve become a nuisance. He regrets his ways of upbringing me. Then he said that this is it and he will get me married by this year end. Also said that if I go on this trip he won’t be accepting me back in this home.
I’m just extremely hurt and sad. Why can’t they ever let me go somewhere happily. It’s not like you’re taking me on a vacation. It’s not like I’m asking you to fund it for me.
Idk what else to do anymore. I’m mentally exhausted. Checked out from this place and people.