Same timeline as TMFR Bub
Hello,
I lost my son in November at 26 weeks for VACTERL association.
I am a single mother by choice and I was 42 when I felt pregnant with him. Honestly, I don’t think I’m ready to try to get pregnant again but time is against me. I was hoping I would be ready by my May cycle….. which is due in two days and I still don’t think I’m there yet. I’m going through IVF and there are some other complications too, such as my fertility specialist swapping clinics so I’m not sure if we’re even in a position to start injections early next week for another egg retrieval. Also, I’ve had a bit of socialising recently and drinking more than I’d like to in the lead up to an egg retrieval.
I’ve been really adamant on trying again in May because it was in June last year that I fall pregnant with Leo. I’m very conscious of having a baby that might have the same timeline/milestones as Leo. I really want any future baby to have their own identity. Truthfully, I wouldn’t try to be getting pregnant again if he’d survived but here we are.
For those of you who found yourself on a similar timeline to a baby you lost – what was it like? Perhaps I’m overthinking things but I’d be curious to hear from others.
My therapist says I’ve done such a strong job at giving Leo and identity that I’m in a good position to make sure any future baby won’t be thought of like his replacement. But I wanted his timeline to be his and another baby to have their own one.
Thank you x