It isnt getting easier. Father had a stroke, need some advice.
Ive posted a few times over the course of the last ~5 months. My pops (66yo)had a stroke around chirstmas 2025 and after a hospital stay, intense rehab stay, he is now in a skilled nursing facility to continue his recovery. He had a massive stroke, fully right-side paralyzed, and was alone for ~24hrs before he was found.
Before the stroke, he lived alone, was very active, and was the classic stubborn grumpy dad. He was going to do whatever he wanted regardless of what people told him. Well, it hasn't stopped. He constantly demands to go home and sets arbitrary dates for himself. It's now at the point that we have a meeting every two weeks with the staff at his facility. I then have to tell him all the reasons he shouldn't be home yet over and over. They tell me he is improving slowly every day and is participating in his PT finally, but he still can't do basic things like transfer in bed, sit on a toilet, or move around in his wheelchair effectively.
I don't want this to sound horrible, but I am in no place to be his caretaker in his current state. He left me with a mountain of debt to try and deal with on top of my own life. I've found ways to pay his mortgage and started dealing with his outstanding debts from before the stroke also. But I feel like it will all be for naught because this constant denial for him to go home is slowly destroying any relationship between us that still exists.
This was a ramble. not sure what im looking for, but ive got another meeting with him and the staff in an hour that im not looking forward to.