Nobody can love YOU. Only what you are.
we all know we are not the things that externally resemble us, right?
you don't feel less Lucy or John as your personality, mental state, look, status (social, financial, academic, legal, etc) and many other stuff change about you.
we do identify ourselves through many of them, but we never feel that we ARE those things. there's something inside you that feels... you. no matter how much you change, you know you are the same entity behind it all. you feel that those things are just tools to represent/define your self. not your actual self.
yet, these are precisely the only things people can love you through. because they simply can't access that "you" essence that only you can feel about yourself.
some people will be shallow and love you for how pretty you look as a girl or handsome as a man. or for your social status like being the popular girl in school or the charismatic guy all the teachers and other students know.
some will even be deep and love you for your views/beliefs or personality/character/mindset or for the way you treat them or for the history and good time you represent to them.
but nobody can access the "you" deep within your soul. the constant, one-and-only, deeply embedded, unchangeable you. only your ever-changing external you.