u/Pure_Hovercraft_5311

Hi all, I wanted to explain my situation, On march 18th it was my ex gfs birthday, I went over to her house and we chilled while waiting for family to get there and do things together. I was there for about 2 hours before she randomly asked me who’s liking my stories since i had posted a story of an outfit i had made. So once she went through it she seen one of my co workers liked my story. She was extremely infuriated, but this coworker likes everyone’s stories as we’re all mutuals and connected by school.

So i had no intentions with that coworker I’ve never thought about even thinking about cheating on my partner with this coworker as the only reason i ever talked to her was to pick shifts up for me, but as my ex went through my phone she seen i also liked a few stories as i was just thinking as they were just regular photos and i’ve had valid proof that i had no intention with this coworker neither cared for, but she got mad and kicked me out her house. I had went home and i didn’t contact her for a minute because i assumed she was absolutely done with me. While i did that i waited and patience got the best of me and i wanted to see if there were more options out there and i had talked to a girl i complimented her after that i never texted that girl back ever since because i felt that this isn’t what i wanted and i wanna improve myself before i even think about ever doing something like this. I knew i could fix the situation i was just so embarrassed after she kicked me out with her sister being in the middle of the situation.

after i encountered her i saw the sister and ex looking at me weirdly but i payed no mind to them but i guess someone they knew told them about me texting a new girl and id assume they said the absolute worst. And then about a few days go by and i decide to text her hoping i can fix the entire situation. As it was taken out of context and a huge misunderstanding I’d understand the frustration and mistrust but right after sending that text i get told from a friend that she was already talking to some new guy and i was absolutely furious. I seen the guy and ended up smacking him, which i regret, it costed me a lot of things. But i texted my ex wondering why she did that and how hurt i felt and she was saying that she didn’t trust me and she said if i really loved her i would’ve fixed it at the start and was calling me a liar with valid proof.

Fast forward to about 2 weeks i broke no contact again asking her if she can call me she agreed and we talked for a good 30 minutes and i had begged her for a chance of forgiveness and a opportunity to try again as she kept denying and saying she can’t and “i just can’t trust you” but she was also saying “i still miss you and care so much about you” we eventually hung up and i was obviously extremely sad, i let time go on again, but fast forward to this week i get a text from a friend saying that this new guy my ex is talking to they were already hanging out and doing couple things when it hasn’t even been 2 weeks fully. I’m confused how she got this new guy so fast while i’m working on myself and trying to keep composure for the future, i thought i’d get another chance if i proved how serious i am about restarting, i was extremely ready for change and i was gonna get a big apology gift for her to fix things but when i got the text saying they’ve been hanging out, my emotions got to me again.

I texted my ex a huge paragraph saying how disgusted i am and how hard i worked to get a chance to try again and i felt so unheard during the situation, but she read the message and blocked me immediately after, after the situation it felt like i’ve just immediately lost feelings and want to move on, I talked with my mother about this and it started to make sense and i still forgive this girl because i still care. I just believe what happened was a huge misunderstanding and even a slap to my own face! I wanna hear people’s opinions on this i may have left some details out but i will clarify if you have any questions.