All I know is my father is awful. I don’t know what to do.
I say this as an only child who has tried to defend my dad for years because all I wanted was to see a cool friendly father for myself. When i was 8 I got to know my dad was having an extra marital affair. I tried to look past it cuz mom was quite about all this. My dad is extremely emotionally abusive, WHICH I did not realize once I started noticing other wives and daughters with their fathers. As I started turning 21, I started to feel like I cannot tolerate his behavior anymore but my mom always kept pushing me down to “not cause him to get really angry and ruin home peace”. I still have a soft spot for mom given her abusive past and the abuse she’s dealing with now (my dad even threatens to hit her or worse) but it’s so hard to handle being quite.
Specially when my dad’s sister’s daughter (my first cousin sister she’s 20) started telling me that my dad makes her uncomfortable. Fast forward now, my dad is completely harassing her and cursing her because she isn’t giving into his shit. She was quietly taking the discomfort for two years and now she’s finally speaking up in the family and they are all shaming her for “enjoying his attention” for two years and now speaking up when she’s had enough….instead of BLAMING THE MAN? I live under my parent’s roof and the part that’s making this worse is…none of them know I know ALL of this. My mother, my father or my cousin. And not only my cousin, my dad has multiple women he makes uncomfortable on a daily basis and recently the girls (he’s keeping an eye on) are getting younger…
None of them know I’m aware how my father is treating them. They are hiding it from me because they want me to have a father figure and my cousin being so loud about it making it harder for them. I’m loosing my mind now. I feel like I’m about to burst like a balloon.